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hi! im new into this site and im here to share my story coz I needed some advice to all the women/men out there.
im a separated woman with 2 kids and i was introduced to a reputable man out of my race almost a year ago. It was a blind date that turned out ok for a couple of months...we had a lot of fun eating, drinking and making love in small little time we have. Not until, he was out of the picture after christmas of last year without any explanation what had happened..I tried to get hold of him through text, phone calls and emails but never got a single reply. I said to myself - his another type of men who doesnt have any balls to face what he is doing. I tried to forget about him but I cant say any bad stuff againts him because he treated me well.

After 10 months of disappearance, he called me back and it was really a surprise coz he still kept my number - until now we still have this sneaking-out things together. We had made love so many times and I can feel the longiness from him. I tried not call him and let him do the move which he is doing now but my main goal of really going out with him aside from giving him pleasure is for him to help me out financially with my situation. In short his getting me for free, though he takes me out to dinner to expensive restaurants and go out stay in some kinda hotel. Whats the polite way of letting him know that I need help without him thinking that Im using him. Im emotionally attracted with him too but I m trying to set it aside coz i know no matter what Im not in his level and he would not leave his wife just for me and I cant do the same thing too coz i still have little ones.

Help me out!!!!