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Hi there, Im not sure if you can help me with this dilemna, well really theres no help to be given since whats done is done but I guess I want to talk to someone who understands or has been through it. Anyways, last weekend I did something stupid and I slept with a guy who had a girlfriend. It was a complete one off thing, something that just happened out of pure wanting and lust, nothing with feelings involved. Not as serious as being a full on mistress, as I said it was once off and was never meant to happen. My friend and I went out with her bro and his mates to a club. Their girlfriends were away on girlie nights and so we all had a fun night dancing and drinking etc, there was absolutely no flirting or shown interest between me and this guy. We all got extremely drunk, some of the guys did drugs and we all went home after it closed. We all stayed up for abit discussing things then this guy involved jokingly decided he wanted to stay in bed with my friend and I since there was a lack of beds etc. He crashed first then I came in and started to fall asleep then my friend said she'd stay in the other room so it was just us two. I found out he was sleeping naked and we were joking about it but I sensed he doing the whole hint hint nudge nudge thing and wanted to fool around even though Im sure he knew he'd feel guilty. We both were turned on by each other I wanted to and he wanted to but it didnt for abit cos of the whole girlfriend thing. He talked to me alot about her and their relationship and how she wants more like marriage but hes not ready for all that and that their always fighting and that at the moment they were going through one of their break up stages. Ive heard from others that their a dying couple. But eventually we did it and needless to say it wasnt even worth it. He kept telling me not to tell anyone and that he felt so guilty. I felt guilty too. It was a huge mistake. I feel like Ive betrayed her too and I feel bad for him, for being the one to help him cheat on his girlfriend. I feel I dont deserve any sort of happiness anymore for what Ive done. I just have no self control. I want to make this better but theres nothing I can do. I am really just simply a whore arent I??

Hiya, just read your post - stop being so hard on yourself! You say you have no self control - but the same could be said for him! Don't carry any guilt around over this issue - why should you for heavens sake, you're not the one who cheated on a partner.
Ok, so you knew his situation but that doesn't mean that you should take all the blame.
Just accept that it happened; its in the past so leave it there!
And yes, you do deserve some happiness and you will get it someday! Maybe if you stop looking so hard for it, then it might just appear!
Move on; there are good guys out there - its just a question of finding them!!
Take care!!

Course you are not a whore. You didn't set out to have sex for money did you?

So you feel bad about it? Well you will get over it and what harm is done? He now reflects on it and either realises he loves his girlfriend and will marry her or realises he doesn't love her and won't make the mistake of marrying her - so either way you did her and him a favour.

Seems you are an angel rather than a whore