h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Hello out there--
I have recently started seeing a married man, and it's blowing me away! I've been divorced for 2 years and have been pretty lonely since I moved to a new town when I left my husband. Maybe that made me more susceptable to this married man. I know that I need some confidence re-building. My X husband was emotionally and physically abusive which sucked! I was totally blindsided by this. I had never been abused or treated badly-- not like that anyway.

Anyway, I met the married man only about 1.5 months ago, and we started becoming sexual after about 2 weeks of knowing each other. He's been married for only 4 years, been with his wife for 7 years. He has 2 kids-- 15 and 12, and he's sucessful and his wife doesn't have to work. They live in another town about an hour away. He comes over to the town where I live for work about 3 days a week. He has an apartment here, which it looks like she never visits.

Anyway, he's older, stable, very nice, generous... I feel oddly blessed to have him for a lover. We usually have sex twice, often for hours. His wife is in menopause and has been for 3 years. He says her libido just fell away, and they have sex about once every 2-4 months. Before her menopause hit, it sounds like they had a really steamy sexual relationship.
She is the 4th woman he's ever been with.
I'm the 5th.
he's like my 35th.

Wow. Did I just write that outloud?

Anyway, the weird part is that I feel as if I was MADE to do this... to be a mistress. I'm really independent and like my freedom. I am super busy with my life, and am not sure how much longer I'll be living here, so no comitment suits me for now. Of course, I also want to sew the buttons on his shirts and wash his socks.... I was a good wife and domestic stuff has always come naturally to me. I love him, and am actually in love with him, but I'm not about to lose my head or heart in this matter. I signed up for it, and I feel good doing it.
When it stops feeling good, or before (as the article states) I'll end it.
I wonder when that will be?

I have to add that I was cheated on in a previous relationship and swore I'd never haev anything to do wiht affairs. I wouldn't be doing this now if this man weren't exceptional. Sometimes I think I'm very blessed that if I were to be a mistress that I'd be the mistress to a man such as himself.
Also, I think my taste in men is improving. I'm finally attracted to husband material...

Ironic.
Thanks for listening.
Tree

hi everybody out there. as u may guess i'm new here, and have already read a few conversations. and by doing such, i realise that i am not alone. i'm having an affair with a married man. we've been seeing eachother for not even two months, and even though i should consider him a lying, cheating so and so, i really think he has fallen in love with me. the first night we met, was meant to be a one night stand, two days later he turned up on my door step, just wanting to talk. i didn't even know him, but i let him in anyway to hear him out and also to reassure him that i wasn't out for trouble. then when leaving he asked for my phone number, i gave it of course. so we spent a few days texting each other, he called everyday, sometimes twice a day. then when he came around ten days after the very first time, we agrees on sex and fun, no comittment, i was happy to be single and told him so. but hten he came sometimes just to kiss me for five solid minutes and rush off to work, sex seemed difficult at first, but it's good now. then he looked me up on skype, and we have had hours of conversation on skype, in which he tells me that he loves me, and doesn't know what to do about it, not wanting to hurt me or his family (wife and two little girls) actually he is younger than me. so i think i haven't done a good job on being a mistress, well actually he said so himself in a text message "actually, you are not a good mistress, i don't think i was supposed to fall in love with you. you failed. x" got this tonight, and less than an hour later another text saying that his wife had called and she knew everything, had even called up his phone bills and seen all the conversations on skype which go from plain music films, sex, love all the details of our first time together, even him sayin how much he wanted to be with me. we spoke about it on the phone, at first he said he had denied everything, saying that we were just teasing one another, and he sleeps at work on tuesdays so we spoke on the phone earlier and he said he might be ready to say the whole truth to her. what can i say? i said that i would stand by him, good or bad, if neccessary i'll take the fall for him, answer to his wife on the phone if she calls and say the same thing, i even said i understand if he would prefer that we stop seeing eachother. but he wants none of that. so does he really love me? just for casual information, it was all sex, we didn't go out together because we live in the same town, and both know a lot of people, so it was always at my place, no presents, no wining and dining, no flowers, but i never expected that at all
when i say all sex, i mean he came often and we could just talk or kiss, not having intercourse sometimes, he even came when i had my period and no sex, three days in a row. i think for a fact that i have fallen in love with him. can somebody please help me.