h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Before I get to the point of this post, to put things in perspective, I'm sure what I feel at present can only be described as a mid-life crisis
Now, I'm no spring chicken, time is indeed taking it's toll folks, things that have happened to me in the past nine months have undoubtedly accelerated this process Anyway to cut a long story short, I need to find myself a woman, and not just for the obvious reasons before anyone jumps to that conclusion. In all honesty that is not a priority in my life anymore, is that strange coming from a male? What I need ideally is a friendly woman roughly the same age as myself, who isn't too shallow and can appreciate life for what it is.
Too much to ask? Maybe not, but my problem lies more within the minefield of bars, clubs and other establishments visited for the want of an evening They seem to be filled to capacity with younger women out looking for younger men and older men out looking to land younger women. Now there's the dilemma! what can I possibly do to rectify this Nothing, I believe is the answer- unless of course someone out there knows otherwise!. So, anyway, in conclusion because of this I feel I'm destined to be a lonely chappie for the rest of my sad existence.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

Just to clarify things a bit more, last night for example, I decided to go to a late night bar. After a few beers my confidence level rose slightly and I approached a female sitting at a table with three other women. I asked her for a dance, in a very polite manner I may add.. a dance no less, nothing more. She sat there speechless for at least 30 seconds, while her friends pounced on me, and practically insinuated that I was some sort of pervert or degenerate for asking a younger woman to dance. I'd say she was roughly 28 (can't really tell these days) and I don't as I recall think the lady in question even got a word in edgeways, so as I felt awkward and uncomfortable I made a hasty retreat back to the comfort of the bar area. I didn't want to allow the experience to spoil the night however and consequently drowned my sorrows with more

Hi Arty

Putting myself in the role of an agony aunt (well I am older than you!)

Sometimes it is easier to get to know people through groups with similar interests. For instance you might meet someone at your computer course rather than in a bar. Are there any other interest groups you could join which have a social side and are not too expensive? Although with the price of being what it is these days that might not be a consideration! Quiz nights might be better than nights when nothing much is happening in the pub.

Don't know if any of this helps. My kids don't seem to value my advice, so I won't be offended if you say "Yes, Well that's obvious isn't it?"



puzzlella

Hi Arty, sorry,I have absolutely no experience in that regard, so can't suggest anything. I must say that what puzzlella says sounds reasonable to me.

Hi Arty.
I know exactly how you feel, but obviously from the 'female' angle.
I'm certainly destined to be alone, not my choice exactly Hey-ho....life sucks sometimes eh!

my tip to you is to try a singles night, it sometimes works really well.

Oh gosh, I really can't thank you all enough for taking the time to reply
I've taken all your suggestions on board and will try to put them into practice, singles nights, now that sounds like fun!

Hi Arty

Just noticed you're online. I can't stop as there is a queue for the PC and most other people in this house take precedence over me . drama groups.. community projects...



puzzlella

Hi Arty,

hope you're having a good Sunday

Don't know what to suggest, really, what about joining a sportsclub ? At least you'd stay fit if nothing else

I'll catch up with you later then puzzlella, and thanks for the advice-you can be my agony aunt anytime!
Ah B'el hello, sports, yes, but what kind of activities are we talking of here...
I'm having a lazy Sunday, my head is still thumping from last night-

I'm not talking about lifting mugs, i was thinking more along the lines of swimming, maybe, or walking or jogging or cycling

Mmm let's see, I certainly don't need any more exercise in that department, not until next weekend at least! Swimming, now there's a thought. I used to go quite a lot to the local baths, but that was when my kids were younger, didn't even cross my mind

I'd go if I didn't dislike the cold water so much Only joking, I've been thinking of going for ages now, but I don't like the crowded pool in summer - it looks so dirty, and you can't do any real swimming then anyway because there are so many people there - and I'm getting more reluctant to be seen in a bathing suit with every year I get older

Dear Art

Have just read this page - having been away for a few days and the answer seems glaringly obvious to me - You are lonely so is Venus - shouldn't you two get together for a drink?

Failing that - they say the supermarket is the best place to meet women! Why not give that a try?

And don't let that horrible exzperience in the pub put you off - there is someone for everyone out there - you just have to track her down. My brother met a wonderful lady on the internet and is now happily married in Virginia! He has been married three times and she is by far the nicest one yet!

Carole

Hi Arty,

I'm staggered that an intelligent, amusing chap as yourself is having a spot of bother in the lady stakes but ....... the majority of my girlfriends are single parents, all the unfortunate victims of extra-marital affairs and not tarty sluts that slept around and had children by different fathers, and they too are finding it extremely difficult to find any man, let alone a younger one! It seems to be a minefield out there and I don't envy anyone, male or female, having to try and a) meet someone and then b) try and suss out if they are 'normal' or not.

The one piece of good news is that a girlfriend is getting married next year to an absolutely sweetie of a man. They met through work. I have to agree with Bel. Doing something that you enjoy, and not necessarily drinking in a bar, is a great way to meet someone and then you know you have at least one shared interest because if the two of you are going in the same direction, that helps. Yes, opposites attract but for some can be extremely irritating and long-term become a bone of contention!

Keep us informed. You have a secret weapon you know. Just look at the response you have generated. All of us ladies here at hootoo can give you the benefit of our femaleness wisdom