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The stigma of singledom

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Northern Boy (lost somewhere in the great rhubarb triangle) <master of Freudian typos> Man or Badger?

Oh dear i hear you cry not another moan or a rant, well no not really but this is something that's been buzzing around in my head and i thought i would whack it out and see what people thought (oh dear the tones gone downhill in the opening section smiley - winkeye)

Over the recent bankholiday i was invited round to my old housemate and mucker from University days house for the traditional barbeque and falling down session.

So rumbled along to be greeted by a group of old mates i've only seen on and off over the last few years as well as my more regular friends, and within the first few mintes i realised just quite how far our lives had diverged. With the exception of myself everyone was there with either wife/husband or long term partner.

Now just to make it clear that doesn't bother me in the slightest, i'm pretty much resigned to singledom and really have no desire whatsover to change the status quo, but it was fairly easy to see that my singledom was in some way marking me out in peoples subconcious as that little bit more odd than normal. I don't think this is something that just occurs here but rather in society in general, you pay more to go on holiday as a single person, you get funny looks if you see a film by yourself and god help you if you go out for a meal alone and i just can't help but wonder why, whats so wrong with being me, myself and i and not part of a couple. Great for those that want to be like that but why is it that if your single your seen (in most cases subconciously) as that little bit defective?

Meh anyway that's that off my chest, although i would be interested to hear others opinions


The stigma of singledom

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Serephina

Hey Brad smiley - tickle

prool cos most of the planet are conformist sheep n anyone who stand out for any reason is wrong

smiley - cross

could this be a subject for ASK H2G2


The stigma of singledom

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2legs - Hey, babe, take a walk on the wild side...

Its because all those 'coupled up' people are smiley - envy and jelious at us as 'singledoms' having the freedom to do what we want when we want and whith whom we want smiley - evilgrinsmiley - drunksmiley - divasmiley - snorksmiley - tongueincheek I look at some of my bestis friends now, both of whom (these are guys I've known since primary school onwards), are married with Kids, and I wonder waht they must feel like; Having known them when younger, and wilder, is this new restrainted life really what they urned for?; These are guys who'd happily go out drinking all night all day and on the next night and the next day non-stop with wild disabandon (that I heartily approved of), who now often go weeks and weeks without so much as a single pint in the pub smiley - huhsmiley - weird maybe its what some people mean by 'growning up', but quite why 'growing up' should need to entail giving up all that which one used to enjoy, and living an entirely differnt life, is beyond me... if that is the only consequence that can come out of people 'coupling up', then I'll happily toddel along in my.... heck of a state smiley - winkeyesmiley - run


The stigma of singledom

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Northern Boy (lost somewhere in the great rhubarb triangle) <master of Freudian typos> Man or Badger?

Baaa smiley - blacksheep

ahh the power of conformity smiley - winkeye

well i've chucked this onto ask so we'll see what it throws up


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