h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I’m not entirely sure where this rant will end up, I’m just talking cause it seems to help. I’m really stuck with my life at the moment. Since coming back from Burton at the end of last year, everyone seems to be different. My parents treat me different, my mates are different even my brother has been distant. While I was down in Burton my brother turned to a mutual friend to go drinking with after I left. Now they’re so close he’ll sometimes go out and not even ask if I want to join them, whereas before we would always plan things together and anyone who wanted to join – could. It might just be me being stupid, but this is certainly not how I expected it. They all begged me to move home when my job finished as they had “missed me” but I don’t know if I made the right move after all. Not only that my life just isn’t on the track I thought it would be by now. I’m 26 and should be starting to think about settling down but I’m single and things don’t show any sign of changing. I’m unhappy with my body, I have no self esteem. Ah well. Needed to get that off my chest.

Hiya sorry to hear your feeling bit crappy ..know exactly how you feel though! with your friends n family...hell everyone changes...but maybe theyre unsure how to be with you for fear that YOU have changed??..give it time. i know where its like to not be where you wanted to be too..i wouldve liked to have been well settled,degree,good job ,few kids etc by now (im not much younger than you)..but i couldnt be further from that if i tried! but still weve got loads of time left to settle down n stuff havent we? i know personally as much as i like the sound of it..im probably not ready for it at all!..im still getting to know n accept n not hate ME ..(im the queen of low self esteem n self decprecation!)..these things just take time i guess..but its easy to feel frustrated. pressured,even inadequate when we look at the lives of those around us isnt it no point giving yourself a hard time though...plenty of time to do that when you get your free buss pass

Thanks Just Me. I know I'm prolly blowing it all out of proportion but as you know, when it happens to you, you feel like no-one else knows what you're going through. I know deep down I'll be OK and there are many more people with greater problems. Just got me down yesterday and I needed to express. Anyway, out on the piss tonight with my brother's friend. He invited me out without my bro so maybe things are changing?

Yay..good piss up always sets you straight when i get on a downer i alwas end up feeling guilty for whinging when i remember people have worse probs....
The journals are great for a having a good moan aint they ..though mine tend to go wildly off topic n end up quite bizarre after the first few replies..

It's actually the first time I've ever used a journal but I can see it becoming a more frequent thing. It helps to let off steam and who cares if people think you're mental right?

Think its a well known fact around these parts that im mental

Join the club, mate!

Hello there. I'm female, thirty, single. Fresh from a line of disastrous relationships and non-relationships. Living with my family is a non-option as they drive me up the wall. Work is (expletive). My writing career: stalled.

Body dissatisfaction can be fixed. I used to really hate my body. I was a borderline anorexic for a while and really hated everything about it. Then I split up with my boyfriend of four years and bang, I decided I really didn't want to hate myself anymore. So I decided I'd act like I was the most gorgeous creature on Earth.

Surprise, it worked. So did the gym and getting my nose fixed.

You're a guy. You're lucky in that you don't actually need to be physically perfect. All you need is: a sense of humour, confidence, sensitivity and good grooming. I have no idea what you look like, but anyone can look good, or at least that's what I think. I'm not academically perfect, but anyone can manage attractive. (Stunning is a bit tricky, but only girls need to be stunning in this world.)

As for being single and things not changing one bit, you tell me.

"You're a guy. You're lucky in that you don't actually need to be physically perfect. All you need is: a sense of humour, confidence, sensitivity and good grooming."

I'm gonna have to disagree there.

A sense of humour. - Got that. Chalk it up, that's one in the bag.
Confidence. - Lacking recently but I still have alot.
Good grooming. - I dress well, I don't smell and I always have tidy hair (I shave my head)
Sensitivity. - Yup, got this too. Can have it in buckets at times.

So, all 4 ingredients are there. So why do women insist on treating me like a doormat? From my experience, girls seem to go for b*st*rds all the time. Stick a good guy and a pr*ck in front of a beautiful girl and she'll go for the one that's gonna cause her pain and heartache every time! Then they moan when they can't get a nice guy. Who do they moan to? US - THE NICE GUYS! Open your eyes. We *are* out there. It's like they say - Nice guys always finish last.

Sorry if it seems like I'm ranting at you - I'm not. But that's been waiting a while to come out now and I feel better for it. Wasn't aimed at you - please forgive.

oh dear..

have exactly the same prob though..
you lot can be sso superficial..
would rather be around the totally gorgous but none the less shallow n total bitch type than us nice girls..hmmm

Nice people should get together

Personally, I'm a sucker for three things:
1) a nice smile
2) a good conversation
3) a wicked sense of humour

Got that, you got me.
Got that, you'll go for somebody else. Usually shallow girlie who'll go "ooooh" at your every utterance. Which I'm not.

Cherish the girl who cries on your shoulder. She might fall for you like I did for my best friend... too late, alas, he had already gone off with a bitchy, gorgeous version of me.

Some guys are like that yes, but that's what I've been saying. There are guys out there who don't just go for looks alone. Of course I like a girl to look her best and make an effort when she goes out - but I hope she would expect the same of me.

matching socks is always a plus eh!

Looks aren't a problem. The problem with me and guys is that even the best of them expect me to be less intelligent and ambitious and alive than I am. They end up running for it when they find out what a life force I can be. As one particularly attractive and interesting guy put it to me recently, "you're so full of life. Men are afraid of that".

So the choice is between being myself and being somebody I don't like in order to attract a mate. Cool, eh?

Being yourself is the only way I would want a girl to act.

And having intelligence is definitely a good thing. I would love to find someone I can have an intelligent conversation with. Of course a sense of humour is always a must, too.

I don't like girls who use headlocks to get what they want tho.... (No names)

Being *her*self. Sorry.

Dyslexic fingers AND terrible grammar.

Hey hey, you all say that, then run for it... I'm not a headlock kind of person, but I find I scare men off just by being myself. I don't think I'm particularly aggressive, in fact I'm quite the sweetheart unless you p*ss me off (in which case I won't talk to you). Maybe it's Italian guys, they're all fraidy cats and treat me as a menace to their egos... Of course they'll have an intelligent conversation with me. Then they'll go off with somebody who is either stupid, or limited, or cold-hearted and hard to get. I hate playing hard to get. I'm either within reach or I'm not.

Sorry.... i was only kiding about ..lol hummpf ..n you did throw a tomato at me!

I was only kidding too.

Oh and I should prolly mention - I frequently wear odd socks!

i frequently dont wear socks at all..among other things