h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

It is said among the masses that high schoolers, once graduated, tend to abandon most or all of what happened there to the mental archive known as "the past". This I had expected of my many friends who graduated a year before me, and with only one exception, I was proven right.

The exception, however, proved to be quite... well, *interesting*, to say the least...

A year ago I had a crush on a guy. ('Yawn', you answer, 'I've heard THIS before.' Not so.) He has a lot in common with me, as I realized from early on, for everything from a basic sense of taste to a sense of humor. And he happens to be quite attractive. But silly me, I get carried away and admit this to him. Turns out he had a crush on someone else, so he wanted to keep things as a friendship. As the year went on, though, we became better and better friends, and when the end of the year came, I was very disheartened to think that I'd probably never see him, or even hear from him again.

A few emails here and there felt very empty; his mode of conversation is very subtle, and the tone of his voice really means as much as the words do. Then came this past holiday, when he came back to town, and he tried to get in contact with me--though through the internet, which is virtually nonexistant for me on holidays. I *did* get to it in time to get his phone number, but alas, he had gone back to college.

Then he called. At the end of a two-hour conversation, he explained why he had really called: a) He had long since realized that whatever crush he had was completely wrong for him, b) he regretted ever saying "let's just be friends", and c) he wants to get to know me better, and have a meaningful relationship if at all possible. (And trust me, it wasn't that consise, but you get the point.

I'm not quite sure what to think. I feel that he's right for me... but I hadn't even expected to have to consider this again. So I'm taking a good long think, listening to advice from friends, and... hoping that this all works out, despite my pesky little doubts.

Of course, feel free to chalk this off as teenage nonsense, if you like.

Such teenage nonsense can be a lifelong affliction, for those who never settle comfortably into a lifelong relationship.

If you're looking for advice from an older yet somehow not a bit wiser friend, I say give the guy a chance. I'm sure you've heard your mom prate on about how her and your dad were friends before finally getting together plenty of times. My wife and I were best friends for 8 months before she finally let me get close to her. My nerdy older brother is happily married to a friend from high school he hadn't seen for a few years. Grandma and Grandpa (release 2.0) were great friends for many, many years.

You get the point.

Besides, somebody needs to get you out of the house every now and then.

Ultimately, it all comes down to how you feel when you're with him. If he makes you feel good, and comfortable, then your heart and your head are in agreement. Make him take things slow, too... it'll be good for him.

"Older yet somehow not a bit wiser"? Hmmmm... :P

Okay. Since I've been thinking about this for a couple of days now... I've pretty much come to that conclusion (i.e., 'give him a chance'). He's really a nice guy, and heck, Mom approves even though she doesn't know there's anything happening yet. (Go figure, I met the guy in Decathlon.) Although I haven't the faintest idea of what I want to say to him... as in, I *know* I want to say something to him, though I haven't figured out *what* that is. Sigh.

Maybe my doubts are simply founded on the fact that I haven't seen him in a while. I know that I loved being around him last year, though I didn't think he had the slightest interest in me. Guess we'll see what happens when he comes back to town, or if I get in touch with him before then. My brain is SPINNING! Grgh. I feel like I'm not making sense. Or maybe it's just the wind getting on my nerves...

Have you changed so much in the last few months that you might have become someone he would no longer find attractive? Maybe the new perky you will horrify him...

Take it from someone who sometimes had to go a year or more between visits to friends... in some relationships, when you see them again after a time, things feel weird. In others, it feels like you just saw them yesterday. There will still be weirdness because the nature of your relationship is changing, but I get the impression that there will be more of the latter than the former.

Heh, I told him about the 'change' and he just laughed. I ain't PERKY, dear cousin, which you should know... speaking of which, laid any eggs lately? I just finally got it through my head to open up to people. Which is causing more and more dramatic results the more time goes on...

*sigh* Off to the boredom of Government now. I suggest if you get really bored, a link on my personal space goes to an interesting site called "The Haven", which has some interesting writings... of course, having absolutely no relation to this conversation, riiiight?