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Hiya, thought I’d pop past and wish you a happy New Year.

I’m sorry to hear that you have been having tough time lately, it can’t be an easy decision to leave your marriage after so long together. Being in a relationship that is not working is not fun at all

If you are worried it might be a rebound thing with this new guy then I guess the safest thing would be to wait until you have sorted things out, separated fully and feel ready to begin anew. Having said that are you absolutely sure that you would be keen to move on if this new man wasn’t a possibility? But I think that as long as you are honest with this new guy, explain how you feel and discuss your fears that you might hurt him because you are feeling a bit vulnerable right now, then you have every right to explore the potential of a new relationship with him and see if it can make you both happy.

I hope it works out for you whatever happens.

Hi Fi, nice to hear from you.
Im not around much on here anymore and have lost touch a bit, but I know if I need a question answered the mob on here will help.

You asked-are you absolutely sure that you would be keen to move on if this new man wasn’t a possibility?- Well the split was on the cards, has been for months, hubby knew really, things have been tense as hell for ages, but I must admit my new chap has given me the kick up the proverbial I needed to get things moving.
Last thing I was looking for was a relationship, I thought at my age I wouldnt have to deal with this dating thing anoymore, lol!But we kind of found each other (myspace has a lot to answer for..!)and hit it off and its snowballed. I just cant put my finger on whats not quite right with it, maybe its guilt or a remaining loyalty to my hubby, I dunno.
Getting the split out the way first then resuming the relationship is the sensible thing I suppose, but at the mo he is keeping me sane and is an online shoulder to cry on. Also depending whether or not I can get alternative accomedation, I might end up staying with him for a bit. He knows my feelings and fears and Ive told him I cant promise that this relationship will lead to anything more than a damn good friendship, but hes a stubborn git, and hes hanging on in there...
Ooh, life shouldnt be this confusing, it should come with a hand book!!
Happy new year to you Fi.Hope its a goodun for you. and thanks for your reply.