h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

there is usually fault on both sides, and even if he doesn't acknowledge that, the fault IS NOT all yours darlin, everyone makes mistakes

he sounds like he is confused about things............

He certainly does

thats what i was about to say helly,i cant be totally blameless!but i dont even know quite what im being blamed for!the actual split..which i was told was cos of noting id done etc,was just somethhing missing,but loved me..or events since!yes ive not been perfect at giving the bit of space he asked for after saying he didnt wanna lose me as a friend n was still there for me..but its been hard,whilst dealing with that hurt,and he doesnt seem to have considered that,or cared! ive cared enough to apologise for being crap at it! telling me the other night though that the reason he needed space to sort himself out was because of me{said nastily}n not elaborating what was meant by that..just listening to me ask was he saying id done something to hurt/screw him up n hanging up on me was cruel.hes always been so decent n reasonable

ive been left to feel i mustve done something terrible that i dnot even know about,that ive made someone id never hurt hate me!all i wanted was civilty n to go back to friends in time

sounds to me like he is not only confused, but is regretting what he did, but doesn't know how to to do anything about it, so in his anger is lashing out, blaming anyone but himself maybe..........

you is a good person and from what I have seen here a good friend too

sounded more like he hates me to me hel..ive apologised for whatever i did,said i never meant any harm..n goodbye..n not even been acknowledged.not got a goodbye back..i cant bear there being anger between us when there never was..n i cant bear to think he did care n i hurt him eough to make him stop when i have no clue how or if thats even what he was saying!

sorry I got logged out for a bit, my modem is playing up

You just might have to let it go, he sounds like he just lashing out

I think your beating yourself up too much sweatie As I said I can't see you have done anything wrong, which must mean that its all, or at least mainly* all down to him, not* you I wish I could make it all better for you but I don't know how to do that

but do i deserve that?i cant think of a thing that truly does..let alone what ive done to make such a goodhearted forgiving person seem to hate me!if only i knew what he truly meant by needing the space'because of me'!

simpostjust doesnt make much sense right now..

wish there was something I could do to help

me to'

puts on a Oprah t-shirt:
serphina, before you love others, love yourself first!

my Oprah

the only thing thatd help right now is an explanation,an apology,or at least an ackknowledgement of mine,to know im not hated if im not

you may never know sweetie

so just let it go, you are not a bad person, you have made mistakes, but you have not done anything wrong

i dont know that i can! how can i heal it when i dont know what im healing?

i mean i cant just put him down as a bastard because he isnt! i have to go to work..

this is going to sound really trite, but let it lie for a bit, time can make all the difference

and STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP, you are a nice person



have a good day at w**K

have a good day at work