h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Hi wall flower girl, thanks for your message in the Condolence Thread. Although I lost my last baby over ten years ago now, hearing of other peoples' distress still brings it back. On the brighter side, I've now got 4 great grandkids with another one due in July.

Reading your space, I'm reminded of an old Chinese proverb, it all comes to he who waits. This seems to be how it's turning out for you Thanks again for your support, catch up with you soon.

luv
GW

That'll teach me to read before clicking, for great grandkids, read fantastic, even I'm not THAT old

granny weatherwax,

how could it not come back up? i posted another note because i saw the way xanatic just ignored you -- well they all did but orcus at least referred to you -- and went on with his insensitive (i'm assuming he's a guy, which maybe i shouldn't, but he sounds like a guy, and not one of the better sort ) tirade like it was all that mattered! boy. i feel sick about people like that. i'm no good at all at standing up for me. i've gotten a bit better at sticking up for other people, though i am really, really timid.

i looked at your page and you seem too to be true! my parents are both professors, and ultra-academic-boring people, and i'm true to type. i had a friend whose mom went out and bought all kinds of outrageous clothes -- not like sexy so much as just fun and comfortable -- and had a menopause party, and my friend was all embarassed. i couldn't talk about it to my friend at all, or her dad, who was so embarrased he divorced her mom a couple years later (she had another party! ) but i did manage to write ms. x (she started using "ms." at her menopause party; this was in about 1975 and i was the world's most pathetic teenager) a card to tell her that i thought she was awesome, and that i really hoped maybe when i got to be her age, i'd have chutzpah like hers.

it's not so far off, but i don't look like i'm going to get it... another ten years to unlearn all this wall stuff. being a bassist in a rock band doesn't count. bill wyman wasn't the king of affect and personality either. bassists are... john entwhistle... no, he's not famous for being prepossessing...

you're way cool. i do think it was brave to say what you did. especially with xanatic there to run over your feelings roughshod. (i like the steam one... that's how i feel a lot.)

what did you mean about good things coming to those who wait, please?

wfg for granny w.

Wow, I didn't have to go out and buy those clothes, I've never stopped wearing them Grandad Weatherwax is planning a big party for my 50th birthday in a few years, we're debating on just where to hold it, we live a distance from most of my relatives, we have a bunch of friends equidistant in another direction, and then there's the local mates. It looks like we'll end up with three parties , three new outfits , and three new pairs of shoes

It all comes to he who waits? Well, you seem to be quite successfull in your academic career & what did the boy do? I've also found that life is too short for revenge, just wait long enough and those who have done wrong by you will get their comeuppance. Like the boss I worked for in the 80's who flashed his money around, harrassed the female staff & promoted those who sucked up to him. In the 90's he lost all his money, his girlfriend, house, car & business when the stock market crashed. I felt rather sorry for him at the time, but he's a much nicer person now.

There's nothing wrong with being shy in social situations especially if you're a good listener. Actually some of the loudest people I know are really painfully shy and use noise as a cover, I wish they wouldn't.


GW

i guess it depends how painful the shyness is, whether you use anything as a cover or just vanish into the scenery, or simply avoid social situations with a kind of reflexive avoidance that is similar to how people treat... oh... hemorrhagic fever?

remember, with my friend's mom it was 1975. she was something like 45 then, so she was born in 1930. for her generation, women going out and buying jeans and reeboks and bomber-jackets was a big deal. heck, letting their hair be gray and not using miss clairol (she swore off, at that same party -- my friend had me over to protect her from he mother's scary "women's lib" friends -- my friend was kinda backward that way, because of her dad, i think. i liked "women's lib", and since my mother went back to being a full-time professor once we kids were at school, never gave that any thougt) was a real big statement. no wonder her husband divorced her. i must admit, after 35+ years of being a wallflowergirl, i don't know much about men or women, but i don't like a lot more about men than about women. i find women more intimidating, because they all know something i don't, like how to be one. i never got the rules on how to be a girl.

you're right, my brother's a big disappointment to my parents, now. he got all the truly boring, pedestrian qualities, and the absence of looks, but not the brains. he was the boy, so he also got all the attention, even if it was negative.

keep on partying granny and grandad!

Good job the rules for being a person come with the genes . Seriously tho' that is all that matters. It's a very big plus for this site. We had a couple of meet ups in Manchester last year, and it was really weird - but somehow nice - to realise that you didn't know the gender of half the people you were going to meet.

Got to go and now, it's nearly 23:00 here & it's work in the morning Speak to you soon

luv
GW

hi granny w!

i wanted to let you know i got so about that condolence thread and some of the garbage people were saying, that i decided to do something about it. so i made a children's memorial garden. the gateway url is http://www.bbc.co.uk/h2g2/guide/A679935 and you click on the green dragon to get into the other one.

i wish there was a way to hide the other one, make it secret, like, so everyone went through the gateway, and only if they knew about the green dragon could get into the other one. i also wonder if we can get it to be a protected space for just grief and condolences, prayers, and happy memories, and the occasional ? do they do that? you might know.

i don't know when i'll make it back online. it's almost four in the morning here, but i was so mad... when i get mad about other people being hurt i don't just lie down. that's only if i'm being hurt. so there you go. i hope you like it. it's for you and for the six of them, and the nine of them, and their dad(s?) and anyone else who knows the pain.

everyone's got a story, even wallflowergirls.

wfg