h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

All the good folks on h2g2 make such a difference, your kind words particularly. The way that the Atelier shares wisdom and support is awe inspiring, like an international league of girlfriends. The men too, bless 'em all.

I think the wise words are there in that post of yours though. They are about the importance of friendship, the importance of doing what one can to help others, that people and emotions are more important than money and things. Kindness matters and it makes the difference.

See - you act with instinctive wisdom. I have had to learn mine.

And I really will be over it by tomorrow.



B

You really are more than welcome, it is funny how one can come to care so much about 'virtual' strangers, although as I have been chatting to you for three years now it isn't so surprising that I care about such a warm, intelligent woman

"I have had to learn mine" *hands over A grade exam certificate*

Your situation is chiming a chord with me at the moment. My best friend is with a man that she loves dearly, she says that he is the only man she has ever been with that truly lets her be herself. But, (and you knew that was coming didn't you?) he says that he doesn't want children. She is very maternal, really wants kids and is just starting to cluck. She has issued him with an ultimatum, either he agrees to start a family (at some point) or they have to part. She is worried that if she stays with him and they don't have kids she will always resent him for it. This is so painful for her and I don't know how to help. I feel almost as terrified of the answer as she does, I love her so much and don't want to see her in this much turmoil. She has given him some time to think about it - this is going to seem like the longest couple of months ever.

I worry I'm making it worse for her with my wedding babble.

Anyway, it is tomorrow and I doubt you are over it yet, but I am certain you are getting there.

kelli
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Send her my love, will you?

I have realised that although I do not mind that I don't have children, I do mind that I don't have a family. Not much, but some. An odd destinction.

Your friend is being wise in a situation where it is just a matter of which pain do you choose.

Take care, my dear.

B

Have just sent you a little present to your agcb yahoo addy.

But don't tell anyone