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Honesty
Posted Oct 28, 2005
Now, here's a question! How honest should we all be?
The first instinct is to say 'totally honest' - obviously without being completely tactless - but is this true?
Honesty really does alarm people. We are so used to hiding what we think in case people get 'the wrong idea' that they get the wrong idea.
So, should we really tell our friends that we love them? Should we tell someone that we've just met that we really like them?
I'm not talking about risking rejection - hey, that's just life, yeah? But should we risk being so very unconventional or just make up our own minds that anyone that can't cope with it and embrace it are not up to our standards?
For myself, I guess I'll just take it as it comes - but not bite my tongue too much as it goes against the grain.
Anyway, that's what I think I'll do. Honestly.
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Latest reply: Oct 28, 2005
people
Posted Oct 26, 2005
So, what gives with this relationship stuff anyway?
I'm not going to start with the usual "all men are b..." stuff because that's old and let's face it, not true. I've met some lovely men over the years - lovely, nice, fun and funny male members of the human race, but...
... it always ends in a 'but' doesn't it?
Maybe honesty, truthfulness and openness are just not part of the human make-up. Everyone seems to want something different while at the same time, not know what they want at all.
If only it could be coded into our DNA to know when we meet someone we'll get on with - not for the rest of time (although that would be nice!) but just for a while.
Ah well, back to the drawing board. Ho hum.
…just remembered – I get to be a mad spinster with lots of cats! Yay!
And you never know, there may be someone out there who will understand that thanks to Dirk Gently, I found a love of quantum physics and Coleridge.
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Latest reply: Oct 26, 2005
Monday 23rd July. Back to Reality.
Posted Jul 23, 2001
My holiday was truly random.
Serendipity was my friend.
And I want to go back.
Now please.
I'm not kidding.
From Chicago to New York in two weeks. How wonderful and amazing and unexpected. What interesting people and friendly bars and beautiful small towns and long, long interstates. And who is Jimmy Buffet?
And now I'm back. And at work. On a monday. And I don't want to be here. I want to go back, to drive down the Interstate in the lovely warm sunshine, to talk to strangers in bars and find motels at midnight. To eat pancakes with maple syrup and get free coffee refils.
Take me back America. I didn't think I'd like you but I do. Take me back.
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Latest reply: Jul 23, 2001
Wednesday 4th July
Posted Jul 4, 2001
Today I'm pondering 'change' and why it's so unsettling and so liberating.
When I think about how my life is changing it's easy to start to hide away from it without even realising that I'm doing it. When that happens, the iminent change itself is replaced with a sense of nagging dread and impending doom puctuated by a half remembered vision of what's happening.
Exploring the consequences of change from every angle is in reality, far easier. Grab that change by the throat and shake it around until you feel in control of it. Don't dwell on what can't be changed - just remember that you'll deal with things as they come up.
Replacing that nagging dread with a feeling that 'dealing with everything is possible' leaves behind a feeling of pure freedom and the ability to look at the future with eagerness.
Open those bank statements. Remember that nothing is fixed. Make bite-sized nibbles out of those problems. Question why that change is so alarming. Stay out of those ruts!
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Latest reply: Jul 4, 2001
Monday 2nd July. Another Monday...
Posted Jul 2, 2001
What makes a person happy? I think it's having something to look forward to. We all look forward to our weekends (except those poor & unfortunate souls who take that time to work). But sometimes, we need more than 'another weekend' to look forward to. Thus the holiday season.
I've been looking forward to my holiday for a considerable period of time. Ever since I scraped together enough money really. And yet, I'm wondering if it's possible to look forward to something for so long that you wear the anticipation out... perhaps in the way that you wear out other useful things, like teatowels and socks.
Now, wearing out the anticipation won't mean that the holiday will be any less wonderful - it's going to be an amazing adventure in bizarre events and odd people if I have anything to do with it - but still, with only four days to go - yes, 4, I've stopped getting excited about it.
Is this why xmas is always such a let down for people? Should it be moved to the middle or even the start of December to shorten the run-up? Would the supermarkets be selling crackers and xmas pud in August if that were the case? No, don't tell me that they already do - I don't want to know.
So, if having some fun event looming (but not looming for too long) is the key to happiness - how can we apply this to our daily lives? How about by calling a friend at say 3 o'clock in the afternoon when time is seriously dragging and inviting them out for a drink that evening? It may give them a chance to talk about the holiday they are going on next week.
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Latest reply: Jul 2, 2001
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