h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Just wanted to say thank you for your understanding posts to me on the AS thread. You obviously understand, which almost makes me feel like weeping 'cos so few people do.

He is incredibly difficult & comes across as utterly selfish to the rest of the world, most people think i am loopy myself for sticking by him; although i do let off steam on here when he is being a total daft bugger (my personal names for him are "daft bugger!" and "monster!" which amuses him no end!)

If you wanted to talk off site in a bit more depth, that would be great, some stuff is too personal to put on here, but obviously that's up to you, don't know if you have the time or inclination. My email is zendevil3ATwanadooDOtfr and MSN is terriandyodaAT hotmailDOT com

(Wow, am i consistent in my tags or what?)

Once again, thanks & to you & Lurch (wonderful name!)

zdt

Yes. I can imagine that they would think you were loopy. I can see why people think I'm loopy to stick with Lurch. It's hard to get them to understand how different they are when they're not trying to defend themselves from the world's bombardment isn't it?
And then when you DO let off steam (which you have too occasionally) they take it as proof that they were right all along. makes you so angry sometimes doesn't it?

Lurch comes across as terribly stern and because he's so big and loomy people tend to find him a bit scary (except for those who've been lucky enough to see the marvellous smile) [I come across as arrogant and remote apparently (not having the ability to recognise faces doesn't help - people think you're snubbing them)]. The 14 year-old has been labelled a "typical surly teenager" since he was about 9 (he has his father's height) and some people have started finding him a bit intimidating too now that he's topped 6ft. Strange, 'cos he and his father are the gentlest, sweetest people you could ever encounter

It IS good to find someone that understands. There are some people on here that say things like "you should let him fend for himself" and "stop worrying about them and do what's best for you" and no matter how hard you try to explain they willfully persist in thinking "all men are the same" blah blah blah. (I thought WE were supposed to be the ones that can't see other points of view!)

This can be a good place to be http://www.healthboards.com/boards/forumdisplay.php?f=17

I found their spinal boards and PCOS boards very helpful and the autism ones seem pretty good too.

I will email you. I'm not very good at keeping in touch though. Sometimes I don't log on because I'm in too much pain, or too exhausted and apathetic, other times i just don't want to talk to anyone - and i get distracted easily and have no sense of time, so you may get upset because communication is erratic. Humble jalopies in advance - it isn't deliberate


As for Lurch...

Well, you see, he's 6'4", with a deep voice, and (being your typical Aspie) had no dress sense (wore a lurch-type suit), cut his own hair (so it looked like the original Lurch's), didn't use gestures or facial expressions, never spoke to people unless he positively had to... The people at work called him Lurch behind his back. It wasn't meant kindly at all, but when I got to know him well enough to discover his wonderful sense of humour I told him - so it lost its sniggerability value


Then we burnt the suits, persuaded him it was OK to grow a beard (which my daughter promptly dyed with henna ) and his hair, hung a big round his neck.... they can't really call him lurch any more - but I still do when I ring the ossif.

Million thanks for email, i quite understand the "some days i can't:don't/won't" communicate stuff (hah; of course i do, viking has taken a degree in that one i think!)

Hmm; i can just imagine Lurch! Viking looks distinctly odd too; though definitely attractive in a weird way with it, he has been spoilt rotten all his adult life 'cos women over him; tall, nice build, blond hair down to his ass & enormous green eyes fringed with dark giraffe lashes. He is convinced he is god's gift to women, but these days many see him as a bit pathetic 'cos of the way he dresses; plus as you say, only "we" get to see the lovely smile stuff!!

Plus, as you said, the humour stuff! When he is feeling (his word) "zennitude"; he can be hilarious; plus he actually does realise the ridiculousness of the "condition" & i am able to basically take the pi**out of him; but he knows i am not attacking him, so it lets him take the pi**out of himself, which must be a relief!

Example: he arrives, decides his trousers "are not right"; takes them off, sits in his knickers in the window...

me: "I thought you said you were prudish? The world can see you!"
him: "I am here, you will protect me, anyway i have my 'orrible knickers on"
"they are indeed 'orrible, that's why i christened them as such, why don't you wear some of the 40 pairs of nice new ones you have at home?"
"they are for decoration"
"Normal people don't decorate their home with pants."
"i am not normal, i am special. Give me scissors & staples & sticky tape."

Much swearing ensues, the trousers are put on, taken off many times...

"i look like an idiot, these trousers are not right!"
"They are fine, leather trousers are supposed to go a bit baggy after 20 years"
"Not mine, mine are special"

Oh sigh; sigh; sigh; leave him to it, make the supper, he gets over it in the end. He does at least realise "i am obsessive about my clothes, i can't help it."

(We have loads of personal jokes about "TOC" which is french for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, "Toc toc, who's there?" "Waaah, don't know, don't care, not touching the doorknob!" type stuff.)

Personally i think the "puns" thing is very useful 'cos if they can make & take puns it means they are not taking everything so literally, so maybe seeing there can be shades of grey, it's not a totally black & white world. I can say to him now "You are a monster, you are a big silly sod!" & he knows what i really mean is "I love you to bits even though you are daft as a brush!" (try translating that into french to an Aspie!!!!! "But a brush is not silly, it's very useful.Why am i in bits?")

Funny old life innit?

zdt