h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

..not leave platypus droppings where they can ruin my new shoes?

*looks ish*

*chastises Platypus droppings*

They promise they won't do it again ... not deliberately at least ...

Hmmmm

hows things?

Things? Things is good, I have to say ... life seems to be smiling on me at the moment and all I can do is grin back ... there's bound to be a catch but as of 00.02am local time (15.02GMT) life is both hunky and dory ...

you?

Not quite so hunky dory at the mo, but hopefully that won't last forever..

Just had a peak at your journal ... it all becomes clear ... It's never easy ...

There's been times in the past when I've wondered when things have fallen apart, whether it's worth the hassle of trying to stay friends ... in the long run though, the heartache and peculiarity that is being on your own for the first time in x amount of time, is worth it ... I'm still friends with every one of my exes ... couldn't not be - some it was tough, other's relatively easy. The first long term, it took us 6 months before we could be in the same room as each other, and we parted amicably too ...

Ironically, the thing which bonded our friendship more than anything, was a christmas party at which both of us, slightly influenced by the ready supply of booze, said all we needed to say, kissed and made up (as friends) and then very nearly blew the whole thing out the water by seriously over-stepping the friendship mark ... for some reason though, seemed to draw a line under the whole thing.

Not saying that it's easy though. Time is a great healer though ... never easy when the parting is amicable, as you forever wonder "if that's so, then why?" ... long range, South Korean s coming fedex ...

South Korea? when did you get there?

Whats bothring me at the mo, is that although he said he wanted to stay friends, really didnt want to loe that, does care a lot etc ,(he said h hdnt fully decided against 'us' either but thats another thing!)and was there whenever i was ready to forgive him..hes completely ignored me since the last time we spoke!i called him the saturday after, asked if we could try again, from scratch, get to know each other properly first,see if thats what was 'missing' ,n he said hed have to think about it. i then said scrap that,lets just be friends as we said..what ou been up to? got silrence so asked what i was doing wrong n he said he jst needed somepace, still hadnt figured ot all out yet etc..
(had aleady said all the stiff about not wanting o lose me as a friend) , a few day later i mailed him woth a 'puter prob..only got a coldish response..n hes ignored me since!even though ive made it clear i do only want friends (which im certain of now,it hadnt really been working for me either) but is really hurtingme not knowing if he meant that, or if ive done something t really hurt him, make him hate me even!ive said all this.. and he cant even give me a civil answer it seems..jus a yes i do want to be friensbut i still need space, or ano i dont anymore! hed rather leave me to feel like this! and if he does care i just dont get that..

Men, eh ... I know it sounds flippant, but I mean it ... we are utterly crap.

My girlfriend is forever asking me to say what I want to, in simple english, rather than giving her cryptic clues ... the problem I've got is that, for me, cryptic clues are simple english!

To be honest, it sounds like he's being vaguely unsensitive, but maybe he's dealing with it the best way he knows how ... were you together for a long time - sorry haven't looked to see if it's mentioned.

About 8 months. Id say its more thn insensitive o completely ignore me when he knows all hes doing is causing me more hurt by doing so!

Yep, you're right, it's selfish ... another male failing ... I don't know what advice to offer. May be he just needs time to sort his head out and feels that seeing you would hurt, but it that's the case, he could at least get it out in the open ... what's the likelihood of you bumping in to him socially? Would it be worth propositioning him and saying, "look, we need to talk ... " at least then it's plain to him where you stand.

We men folk are particularly stubborn and short-sighted at times ... if it's not there in black and white, beating us about the head with a stick there's every likelihood we'll miss it ...

no chance of seeing each other socially..we live a fair way apart.. but what would be the point anyway when it seems im no longer even worth the civilty of an email reply..

Aww ... that's bum to say the least. I guess the reason for my staying friends with my exes is because I can't avoid seeing them ... does make the whole 'let's be friends' thing that much easier.

I really don't know what to suggest I'm afraid, but I do promise not to leave platypus droppings, scattered willy nilly about the place, primed and ready to ruin shoes ...

Actually i got a brief mail from him last night(still hasnt been back on here though)..i haven't done anything ,is just needing some time n space and has had other stuff being crap too by the sound of it feel a lot better about things this morning anyway..so yes definately dont ruin my shoes!