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Hi, this is the answering machine of Quadrapop on h2g2... Just thought I'd drop you a line to say - Hi!

Seriously: you dont seem to have been very active on h2g2, your user number is younger than mine, thus you obviously have a life, which of course would make you worth talking to. (My excuse? well check out some of the articles I'm currently writing for a clue or two...)

So what can we talk about?

Hmmm, that all depends on what Callye is interested in...

Q'pop

Hi, Quadrapop's answering machine!

I visited your page and was really interested in your writings. But you'll have to explain what attachment parenting is? I've got 2 children and have read lots about parenting but have never come across this phrase.

I agree with your views on bisexuality and monogamy - personally, I don't know any couple where both have been 100% faithfull.

Oh, and I love cats. I have 2.

Glad you liked the site and actually read some of my articles... Looks like I will have to define AP in them too. Thanks for the tip.

Here is a list of things that encompass Attachment Parenting I found whilst trying to define this style for someone on another email list:
Attachment-style parenting involves;
-natural childbirth and early bonding
-plenty of physical contact (including night-time closeness)
-prolonged breast-feeding
-prompt responsiveness to crying
-sensitive attunement

It also uses non-punitive discipline;
-no punishments of any kind ie spanking etc (including "time-out" and artificial "consequences")
-no rewards or bribes
-search for the underlying needs and feelings of the child
-non-violent communication - trying to use the word 'no' as little as possible etc.
-peaceful conflict-resolution (family meetings, mediation, etc.)

To do these things you often have to recognise the need for acceptance of emotional release;
-awareness of babies' and children's vulnerability to stress and trauma
-recognition of repressed emotional pain as a contributing factor in many behavioral and emotional problems in later childhood/adulthood
-recognition of the healing effects of laughter, crying, and raging (all emotions are positive if experienced in the appropriate manner)
-respectful, empathic listening and acceptance of children's emotions

This is the most decriptive list of things I have found that defines the style of parenting we attempt to practice.

How old are your two? (Kids that is)

So, do you guys have an open relationship?

What are their names? Are they 'moggies' or pure breeds?

Q'pop

Hi Q'pop. Thanks for replying re: attachment parenting. In theory it all sounds ideal, but how do you manage in practice?

My cats are both Persian X ie moggies, absolutely beautiful, especially in winter when they grow back their winter coats.

My kids are 5 and 6.

And I'm not currently in a relationship. I've kind of sworn off them in the last two years.

Cheers