h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

..to realise, something you really wanted, was never going to be ..to realise your own mistakes ,things you couldve done differently,but were scared to push or scare away so tried to let the other person lead..when they were floundering too. To realise what you thought was great, and wanted to be greater, wasnt really making you happy after all..i missed a lot of things, the closeness of being able to ask that person anything(i never felt i could, so much i wanted to ask but didnt),rambling about nothing n the future,getting the odd surprise call just to say 'i miss you', being taken somewhere nice for dinner, little things like that, that make the s n 'love yous' and other stuff more real..the stuff that adds the 'magic' we both felt mising..it sad to reaalise you may have made a mess of something..or maybe with all those little things it still wouldntve been right. to realise you love someone, always have..but perhaps only 'wanted' to be 'in love' with them, because you 'thought' they were what you wanted..they seemed right..or at least that they could be. But these things happen i guess, no amount of wanting something to be right, even on both sides,will make it right if it isn't...and i hope i've learnt something, i think i have..and i hope i still
have a friend to show for it and that the friendship at least we can get right n build on to make it better.

sounds like you have learnt alot , may have been something you needed to learn before you could move on and grow, every cloud has a silver lining, an it will be good if you can get a friendship out of this, that may have been the lesson, friends are as important as lovers.........

True, sweetie I thinking something very much like this regarding myself at the moment, but I certainly couldn't put it down as well as you have I've so much to sort out myself at the moment, I hope it works out for you and you can remain friends and I'm here if you wan tto talk about anything

Friends can be more important Hel..and who knows you better in some ways than someone youve fluffed a relationship with?

He said he wanted to stay friends,really didnt want to lose that cos does really care about me (loves me) ,so i hope that was meant and we will, cos i need that right now..to know all was meant and nothing was wasted..to have something good n true to show for it all.

maybe if you become friends first it will lead to sommat more, maybe you guys went at it all about face, both desperate, both wanting so much, this may be a blessing in disguise, make you both slow down an learn an grow together

I wish you well

Perhaps..

All i'm interested in right at this mo though is being friends. As i've not heard from him i dont know if he still wants that too..i really do hope so though. It always hurts me a little to lose a lover, but would break my heart to lose a friend..to not be worth that after sharing so much together would hurt a lot more than anything else has.

hi serephina.just popped in to say hello,i hope you don't mind.I was lurking one day,and came across your space,and got lost in reading your postings.
You took me back a a lot of years,and i could feel all the emotions you described,they were there,way back in my memory!!!
You took me back to when i was 16,17,18,and having a bad time in my relationship,on and off like a pair of socks,never knowing how things would turn out!!
Well,37 years later were still best friends,and have been married since i was 19.Weve grown together,and it's been a good experience,sometimes,a hard one as well.
I hope things work out for you,and that you both decide what 's best for each other,as well as yourselves.It's no use loving someone whowho doesnt feel the same,no matter how much joy it gives you to be with them.I wish you luck,love,and friendship for the future,and happiness above all.

s and s for both of you I do hope it works out and you can be friends, you did seem to get on well together

for Serephina, at least you now know where you stand.

just give him time an space, friendship can't be forced, just keep in touch lightly, email, or phone, let him know you are thinking of him, but no pressure, let things happen naturally, may take months, just let it flow.....

I knw ewhere i stand.. i want to be friends..its if we both stand in the same place i dont know..