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Post 1

Skankyrich [?]

Well done. You win.

Lainey's off on her hen do this weekend. I have the place to myself. ALL weekend. Woo!

Except I have nothing to do. I can't make her a cup of tea when she wakes up, nor one when she gets home from work. I'm eating out (curry) all weekend, at least in part because there isn't any point in coooking anything nice if your lover isn't there to enjoy it.

My cousins met up with me for a curry tonight, and we all agree that the world wouild fall apart without women. We'd be ok with our pubs and stuff for a few days, but would soon fall into an apathetic state brought on by Sky Sports News, comfortable sofas and lager. I don't see how we'd cope.

The flat feels weirdly empty. I'm used to there being two people here. One may be asleep on the sofa or off to bed already, but there's two of us. It feels lonely right now.


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Post 2

Magwitch - My name is Mags and I am funky.

I can get on that, Rich. Even if Aaron has just nipped out for a few hours I can feel lost.

However, you're getting married very soon (are you scared yet?) and Lainey will be there, with you, for a very long time.

Enjoy the peace, Sky Sports and don't forget to tidy up, wash up and vacuum before she comes home to you smiley - smiley


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Post 3

KB

I hope you sort it out. And realise that Women are humans.


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Post 4

~:*-Venus-*:~

>>I hope you sort it out. And realise that women are humans.<<

smiley - bigeyes Whos been spreading that malicious rumour? Everyone know we're goddesses! smiley - diva


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Post 5

KB

smiley - laugh Unfortunately I'm an atheist.


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Post 6

Galaxy Babe - eclectic editor

Being single is the pits, and more so when I read journals like this. Take the missing Lainey as proof of love, and feel blessed.

(and pop round here and make ME a smiley - tea)smiley - grovel


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Post 7

Malabarista - now with added pony

*blink blink*

On the one hand, I'm glad you're missing Lainey, Rich - it's a good sign.

On the other hand, the main idea that shines through for me here is that "men think women are something to be put on a pedestal/are what makes a house a home", and that is their purpose. And that somehow makes me very glad not to have a boyfriend smiley - laugh


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Post 8

psychocandy-moderation team leader

I know sort of what you mean, Rich.

K's band usually practices Friday nights, if most bandmates are available. Usually by Wednesday I am looking forward to the alone time, planning things to do which are one-person things, usually projects of some sort, or watching a DVD he might not enjoy as much as I do. By the time Friday night rolls around, I find that most of what I'd wanted to do is less amusing by myself, and get bored with it right away. More often than not, I'm in bed around the same time as a regular weeknight.

Of course, then on Saturday afternoon I'm trying to get things done and kvetching about his being underfoot. smiley - laugh

Men aren't totally useless without us women, though. You just bring out some of the best in us.


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Post 9

I'm not really here

:sigh: I knew you were my ideal man. Double damn. smiley - devil


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Post 10

Skankyrich [?]

I think psychocandy has summed up how I'm feeling better than anyone. It's actually nice to know that other people feel like this, you know. I felt really weird looking forward to being able to Get Stuff Done and then spending my time doing very little.

Last night, I was a little 'tired and emotional', but the sentiments were quite right. When you attach your life to someone else's, you're bound to feel like a big part of it is gone if they go away. Half of me is in Brighton. I don't want to go to bed because half of it is empty. I can't wait until she comes home.

'However, you're getting married very soon (are you scared yet?) and Lainey will be there, with you, for a very long time.' (Magwitch) - I'm really excited about the wedding. I've just run two receptions, and they both went seamlessy, and I've learnt a lot from the bride and groom at each. It's going to be fantastic. And I don't think there's anything to be scared of.

'On the other hand, the main idea that shines through for me here is that "men think women are something to be put on a pedestal/are what makes a house a home", and that is their purpose.' (Mal) - What? Let's rephrase that without the sexism, and with my actual thoughts in mind, eh? - 'I adore my future wife, and our home doesn't feel right when she's not here'. You need to get better at reading between the lines, if that's what you want to do, because your twist on my words (which labels me as a chauvinist) is unfair, offensive and just completely wrong.

Mina, you could have mentioned this earlier. All the plans are made now. You could have whisked me away in your camper van on the pretence that you needed a push up a hill. I'd have been nice to people, and you'd have taken their dogs for walks smiley - tongueout It could have been perfect. Triple damn, even.

Ahh, life.


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Post 11

Vip

Even at the meet last night, part of me was missing Mr Vip (until he turned up, of course). I understand completely, Rich.

smiley - fairy


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Post 12

Malabarista - now with added pony

smiley - laugh Sorry, I'm not trying to make you out to be a chauvinist. It'd be the same if someone had said that about men.

I'm just saying: be careful putting people on pedestals. It raises unfair expectations because you start seeing their actions in light of the ideal you'd like them to be rather than the person they are, warts and all.

Because "the world would fall apart without women" does put the responsibility for keeping things ticking over on women.

That's all I was saying.


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Post 13

Malabarista - now with added pony

And yes, sorry, it did sound a bit mean the way I put it.

I guess there are enough women here who would enjoy being venerated smiley - shrug Not my thing, but whatever makes 'em happy...

I'll just leave now.


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Post 14

TRiG (Ireland) A dog, so bade in office

Rich, that's lovely.

Malabarista, I got what Rich was saying*, but I could also see your take on it. I knew that wasn't what he was saying, but I could see how it could be seen that way. Think of the play An Ideal Husband. Or of various stuff I've read on the Shapely Prose blog. (I like feminist blogs, on the basis that they are usually both interesting and well-written. And sometimes they really make me think.)

TRiG.smiley - smiley

* Well, sort-of. I'd've got it more if I'd ever been anything but single.


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