h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Got Bonnie to take a shower the day after Thanksgiving. I told her if she didn't take a shower I would take to Cabela's instead. My Daughter-in-law was ill the day before Thanksgiving so we went to their home the following Saturday. She was able to communicate well and aware at our Son's house.

I was reviewing some information in a book called "The 36 Hour Day" which calls itself "A Family Guide to Caring for Persons with Alzhemier Disease, Related Dementing Illnesses, and Memory Loss in Later Life. One of the symptoms noted is the inappropriate behavior patterns. Such as the use of vulgarity which I believe Bonnie started using about a year or more before the discovery of her plight. She would use the "F" word in front of young children. She would stop if I reminded her

>>The 36 Hour Day<<

*Sends thoughts to make MoFoLo strong so he can put 36 hours work into a 24 hours' day*

ditto - the power of thought is strong

Thanks guys, you been a tremendous help. The thought waves must be working. I have been staying on an even keel for a while now. I just got an invite to go to my son's 40th birthday party. Can you believe it? I have a son older than you.


Bebop

you can't trap us that way - we are an eternal 21

Hi guys,

Same ole same ole, but, something different. is going to go to Arkansaw sometime in the very near future. Maybe within the next week or two. I went over to Mary's, my daughter across the street, and asked if she would be able to stop at the house on her lunch - she is only ten minutes away - and see that her mother gets a hot meal. All she has to do is pop a TV dinner in the micro and three minutes it is done. She is back out the door in five minutes. She practically blew up on me. Her work is short handed, did and I have a blow-up? Etc, etc, etc, ad nauseum. No and I did not have a falling out, and I am trying to keep Bonnie out of a resthome. If I can't get some help I may be forced to put her in one. If so Mary knows that would mean having to sell the house she is living in.

I started this too late. Got to relieve our telephone operator on her lunch and get back to work.

MFL

Why is going to Arkansaw?

Have you fully explained the situation to Mary? Does she fully understand? Could you write her a letter explaining everything? Or is she being just plain awkward

On the other hand, is Mary's job very important to her & could she risk losing it if they found a reason?

Is there something happening to daughters at present - mine having caused trouble at the end/beginning of the year & now yours ... maybe they are eating something that doesn't agree with them

I owe you & Pan a long email, but have only today got back on h2!!! So "give me just a little more time"

nan will explain all in a forthcoming email ...

Nan,

*Why is going to Arkansaw?* ~~ To visit a young lady he has been courting over the internet for the past year. For how long - do not know. I think he should get away. When I was his age I had traveled 4500 miles. 1500 miles from the center of the US to the Atlantic Ocean and from there all the way to the Pacific; another 3000 miles.

*Have you fully explained the situation to Mary?*~~; Yep, but she has more alibis than Ike.

*Does she fully understand?*~~ Yes, but her life is the only thing that matters to her.

*Could you write her a letter explaining everything? Or is she being just plain awkward?*&~~ She is too self centered. She cannot be bothered with other people's problem even if family. She has always been that way since about preteen.

*On the other hand, is Mary's job very important to her & could she risk losing it if they found a reason?*~~ She gets an hour off for lunch. Going to home and back is about 20 minutes and 5 minutes to pop in, put in a dinner, serve it and get back out. She would still have 35 minutes to do what ever she wanted. It doesn't matter that I do her a favor four days a week by going out of my way to pick up Malique, the midget, from day care.

*Is there something happening to daughters at present - mine having caused trouble at the end/beginning of the year & now yours ... maybe they are eating something that doesn't agree with them.*~~ We were planning on selling Bonnie's mother's house she had inherited when Mary got Bonnie to allow her to "rent" the house. I told Bonnie that this would surely cause us to get a divorce. It probably would have had Bonnie not gotten inflicted with dementia. Mary hasn't paid rent in three years. She pays the taxes and her own utilities but it is nowhere near the cost of rent. I have put in new stove and washer, help pay her fees for bandruptcy, and a couple of occassions her utilities.

Before it was discovered that Bonnie had dementia, Mary got Bonnie to help her get around $5,000 worth of furniture on my credit. She talked Bonnie in buying her a luxury gas guzzling car but the car is in Bonnies name. I had to close out our checking account and open one in my name to prevent the bank from taking the funds from my account when Mary gets in arrears on her payments. This happened a couple of times and cost me a fortune in bounced check fees and penalties because I did not know the loan company was going to take the money out of my account. They take it without warning.

Mary's first car was purchased by getting her Grandmother to co-sign the note. After a few months Mary stopped paying and the bank took the balance of the note out of her Grandmother's savings.

I no longer help her finacially but I can not kick her out because of the three boys. I'm sure she would keep me from seeing my midget and with all my other problems I am not certain I could handle that.

But if it comes time I have to put Bonnie in to a rest home I will have no choice but to sell the other house to pay off the loans and Mary will have to go on her own or live with me. That will not be pretty.

Hey enough about the good times here. How is the wee puppy doing?
Don't be giving her no .~~ is not good for little pups.

I look forward to the E about how things are going

MFL

Oh, Mofolo

You don't need all that.

Of course Ant should go try out his life on his own. I agree with that.

And you definitely don't need to live with Mary if it comes to that. You need time to live like you want.

But of course there are the grandchildren. But won't they seek you company anyway?

I find it very hard to understand that a grown up woman expects so much of others (services and economically (- what *does* she spend her money on?)) - wants to depend on others, and cannot/ will not help out practically or otherwise.

Wish I could do more.

tartaronne

Mo

I am in complete agreement with all that tartaronne has just said.

It sounds like Mary needs a good kick up her *********!!

I am sure the grandchildren will survive OK - they are young & robust, but what a terrible way to learn how to live!

No for the pup

retrieving - somehow deleted.

Okay I see how that works. I forgot that it started as a journal entry and becomes part of the coversations section. I saved all of them in files on the hard drive.

Let Aunty look after all your storage problems here for now - she has more capacity