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 Here goes,

My plan is to use this as a forum for those who have no where else to go, and for those who want to help others in some small way.

No particular format or rules ( subject to H2G2 Rules ), But if you need to talk or want to ask anything then feel free, I await the first response !

Hi Kevin, I think you've got a good idea here, haven't read recent postings, I've been away from H2G2 too long! Keep wanting to update journal, but in retrospect. You can't fudge the date like you can in a hand written diary.

Well how's this for a bit of a rant. At work we ordered some lovely dual processor computers from DELL. We were eagerly waiting their arrival. When they did, our lovely Pentium 3 dua processor machines were a processor missing. Today (21 June) Dell finally send us the processors BUT there are no installation instructions!!!!!!!! To say we're a bit peeved would be an understatement.

But according to Dell's advertising they don't sell out of the box, They build the system you need !!!!!!! I'm glad they don't sell out of the box, and that Dell built the system you need ???? You would have thought on an expensive order they would try and get it something like right !!!! But isn't that just the way things are , No pride in thier work or product, and certainly not worried about the individual customer, After all someone told them they were one of the Best !!!!!!!

We finally got it sorted but only after talking to the systems guys at work.

Dell initially tried to make out that they had given us what we had ordered. But when we pointed out that the invoice clearly stated we ordered two processors they gave some other bizarre excuse.

Yes they do make systems up to your own spec but they obviously employ too many people who can't read.

Glad it's sorted, I wonder though what brand of computer Dell Staff use for thier stock control / orders etc Maybe they use a Dell two processor system with one missing ??? That would explain thier error !

Dell don't build computers, they build...Relationships.

dysfunctional but relationships nevertheless.

The stupid thing didn't like having its case on! I told it in my best firm mummy type voice that it needed the case on or it would catch some horrible disease. It then screamed for a bit saying it had a cable ache. So we changed the cable and since then it's been working fine.

Folks I put this here to help others , Yes I know , Corny or what ! ,
Today I need to talk , at 5pm yesterday evening , my 18 year old nephew hung himself , and right now I do not nknow what to do or feel, I hate burdening others , but today I can't cope , I need to tell anyone , because right now my heart is torn in two !!! Prayers much appreciated !

I am so sorry. Three years ago my sisters husband commited suicide by gassing himself in his car, and just a few days before their daughter's seventh birthday. Just a few months later, my cousin, just one year older than me, died suddenly in his sleep. No cause was ever found.

I can understand a little about what your going through. The shock is tremendous and it is very difficult to comprehend why someone would take their own life. The note my brother-in-law left didn't explain anything.

The first few weeks immediately after Simon's death were awful. Everything just passed in a haze. It is hard to know what to say to someone in those situations. I found it terribly hard to talk to Simon's mum in particular.

Thanks Smurf, For sharing you own experience , and for the words of comfort ! , The haze you mention, I find myself in right now, Here at home I'm trying to hold everyone together , Thats why I needed to tell someone sort of annonymous , Ther is no way to cope with this , It just takes time , lots of time , I feel somuch for his mum and dad, and his 10 year old brother who found him , We're flying out to Sweden at the Weekend if work finally let me have leave , We have cancelled our holiday in Devon which was mean't to be in 3 weeks time,

My nephew was a mixed up kid , a very talented artist , ogood looking lad , with bags of personality , He was fluent in 3 languages and generally very intelligent , He lacked confidence in his own talents and abilities , It just seems a shame he had to die because he lacked confidence,

I want to cry , and I will later , but now is the time I have to be there for the family , and I find the weight of it hard to bare ,

Thanks again

Kevin

My last reply was ended more abruptly than I'd intended as we've just a had a new security system installed and I needed to take my computer off line.

Children have a remarkable way of coping with situations like this. My oldest niece was 10 when Simon died and although she didn't have the horror your nephew has had I was suprised by her resolve. She wanted to say goodbye in person and it was left to me to take her to see Simon at the funeral home. The staff there were great with her and now she says that for her she feels glad that she was allowed to say goodbye in her own way. I think it helped her a lot to come to terms with the whole experience.

My sister was working on autopilot for a long time after his death. It's very difficult to be strong for someone in her situation when you're trying to come to terms with it yourself but it really is important that you try and make time for yourself to grieve. The emptiness left by the passing of someone so suddenly never really goes away but the feelings you are all experiencing now get better over time.

My sister found it very useful to talk to people who had lost a loved one in a similar manner. It took her a few months before she could face talking about it but she later said it was the best thing she'd done. Even now she still feels very angry towards Simon at times but she has gradually learnt how to deal with this. Feeling angry is perfectly natural.

Anyway, our thoughts are with you all at this difficult time.

Thanks Smurf,

We are on our way to Sweden to be with the family and for the funeral, thanks again for sharing , will get back to you at a later date

I just came across your post in another forum and came over to check it out.

I don't know what to say. I hope you're doing better.