no boy, yes boy
Created | Updated Apr 7, 2002
a common occurance.
walking into a party or crowded place, casting the eyes as we all do, unless we have no eyes, in wihch case we may ask for assistance.
the first thing we notice, even in the apparant ambigous society we live in, on a subconcsious level, is the gender of every person. people stand out if their gender is indistinct.
rubbish! you may say, but see what you do when you look at people.
anyway, as you look across the room, regardless of sexuality, there is a 'yes/no' surveilance going on.
'yes' for the blonde, 'no' for the brunette, 'YES' for her/him, 'NO, bloody hell, NO' for her/him.
this generalised but apparant system begs the question - what makes a no person a no person, and what makes a yes person a yes person?
i will attempt this from a heterosexual male perspective, as this is what i happen to be.
in my immediate group of frequent male companions, there are two of us that are consistently 'no boys' and two that are consistently 'yes boys'.
though they may be lying, our female friends have stated that they believe the two 'no boys' to be much more attractive than the two 'yes boys', though in the party/gathering situation, the outcome is never so.
why is this so?
simple answer.
the 'yes boys' are sluts. they are sleazy and easy. the girls know (we have asked a few) that they can pick up for the evening without having to try too hard.
they are not looking for any complications or intelligence (being a 'yes boy' often begs complacency and stupidity), and though they know that these boys are not as nice as others, they have decided that since 'no boys', who have now become 'yes boys - just ones who respect people', don't 'try' to pick them up, then they can't be bothered waiting.
so instead of perhaps making an affirmative motion towards the 'no-boys', who everyone likes in the morning, they go for the easy option.
now, is this a positive use of new feminist sexuality, or a degredation to the point of the 'yes, i am a slut boy' mentality?
is the justification, 'looking for a good time, no complications' valid?
i suppose it's a personal thing
and i suppose i'm a little bitter
i imagine that this is universal
but i can't be sure
there was something else i was going to say, but i can't remember it.
so there
walking into a party or crowded place, casting the eyes as we all do, unless we have no eyes, in wihch case we may ask for assistance.
the first thing we notice, even in the apparant ambigous society we live in, on a subconcsious level, is the gender of every person. people stand out if their gender is indistinct.
rubbish! you may say, but see what you do when you look at people.
anyway, as you look across the room, regardless of sexuality, there is a 'yes/no' surveilance going on.
'yes' for the blonde, 'no' for the brunette, 'YES' for her/him, 'NO, bloody hell, NO' for her/him.
this generalised but apparant system begs the question - what makes a no person a no person, and what makes a yes person a yes person?
i will attempt this from a heterosexual male perspective, as this is what i happen to be.
in my immediate group of frequent male companions, there are two of us that are consistently 'no boys' and two that are consistently 'yes boys'.
though they may be lying, our female friends have stated that they believe the two 'no boys' to be much more attractive than the two 'yes boys', though in the party/gathering situation, the outcome is never so.
why is this so?
simple answer.
the 'yes boys' are sluts. they are sleazy and easy. the girls know (we have asked a few) that they can pick up for the evening without having to try too hard.
they are not looking for any complications or intelligence (being a 'yes boy' often begs complacency and stupidity), and though they know that these boys are not as nice as others, they have decided that since 'no boys', who have now become 'yes boys - just ones who respect people', don't 'try' to pick them up, then they can't be bothered waiting.
so instead of perhaps making an affirmative motion towards the 'no-boys', who everyone likes in the morning, they go for the easy option.
now, is this a positive use of new feminist sexuality, or a degredation to the point of the 'yes, i am a slut boy' mentality?
is the justification, 'looking for a good time, no complications' valid?
i suppose it's a personal thing
and i suppose i'm a little bitter
i imagine that this is universal
but i can't be sure
there was something else i was going to say, but i can't remember it.
so there
