Posted Jan 29, 2004
We usually associate the word with school yard games. Gangs of people supported by the power of a leader, conniving and manipulating to disempower a child, be better than them, usually for no reason. Intimidate and harass them, label them, geek, nerd, goof. Humiliate them and embarrass them so they can be assured of who is in control.
In this case its with adults and its happening in the workplace.
Adult bullies, like their schoolyard counterparts, tend to be insecure people with poor or non-existent social skills and little empathy. They turn this insecurity outwards, finding satisfaction in their ability to attack and diminish the capable people around them.
A workplace bully subjects the target to unjustified criticism and trivial fault-finding. In addition, he or she humiliates the target, especially in front of others, and ignores, overrules, isolates and excludes the target.
If the bully is the target's superior, he or she may: set the target up for failure by setting unrealistic goals or deadlines, or denying necessary information and resources; either overload the target with work or take all work away (sometimes replacing proper work with demeaning jobs); or increase responsibility while removing authority.
Regardless of specific tactics, the intimidation is driven by the bully's need to control others.
I'm so tired of being bullied.
Gullible, Naïve, Sucker, Innocent and trusting.
Posted Jul 23, 2003
Would be me.
It the innocents and trusting that makes me gullible, naïve and a sucker. Will I ever learn….
Sun is shinning in my world
Posted Jul 11, 2003
But I am just not sure where it is.
This week I had surgery on my wrist. Nothing serious, just removing a very unwanted, uncomfortable lump. I was told it would be an easy procedure 30 min, and a couple of stitches and back to work the next day. Well it ended up being and hour, with 2 stitches and 7 stables and the pain was extremely unpleasant. I trying so hard not to be a totally baby, but I was...however my mom tried really hard to have my focus on something else! I am actually quite amazed she made it through. Thumbs up for her! I have been off work this week, and totally bored can't do much.
Next week will be better!
Frustration has set in...
Posted Jul 3, 2003
Yeserday, today and probably tomorrow...my frustration stems from the pain of losing someone. At first it was the initial shock that she wasn't healthy, and then death. It all happened within 2 days. Sadness, anger, and now frustration…why do bad things happen to good people. I want to hate someone, something...but what...
I'm not ready to accept that fact that this person will no longer be physical in my life. And not knowing that this person was dying hurts even more. I was asked to speak and read scripture at the memorial service; which I thought how hard could that be. But I think it was one of the hardest thing I had to do. I was feeling so many emotions; I got flustered and couldn't finish what I wanted to say. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
I know life goes on, and I know I will heal….(in time). It makes me realize how really important it is to cherish every moment. cm