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The Rules
Posted Aug 27, 2002
or, what a guy means when he says...
I'm told that despite what I said in the last entry, there are some rules that will help me understand the mysteries of male conversation...
Rules like, if he gets your phone number, you can expect a phone call: not on the next day (that looks desperate) but within a week; but not on a Friday or Saturday evening (that looks like you have no life). If not, then he's not interested. And to ask a girl out, you should ask twice and no more... if you get two consecutive no's, that's it. Any more looks desperate, but once could be a fluke.
That's the one I hit yesterday, but from the other side... ask a guy out, get two consecutive sets of 'no'- one with a truly pathetic excuse attached! So then comes the question... where *do* you meet a decent guy in Sydney? Anyone?
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Men
Posted Aug 22, 2002
I've been having this discussion with a friend lately... why do men and women have so many miscommunications? Why is it that a girl will be trying to send 'signals' for *months* and a guy will be cheerfully oblivious? Are they just dense? Or is it deliberate, just to annoy us?
It seems a tad unreasonable to assume that all men have some kind of conspiracy to irritate women by ignoring all these signals... especially when it would have to increase their own pain in the long run... so perhaps it's denseness to some extent.
So my conversations lately have run along the lines of (in relation to a specific guy)- "Is he really that dense?" and the answer, usually, is "not exactly- you're being too subtle- be more obvious!".
My guess is, women are so used to analysing the conversations of other women to determine what they *really* mean when they say whatever, or analysing the behaviour of other women to see what they're really doing and men just don't think that way! So a guy misses all the signals, because the girl assumes that he can read between the lines, which is a skill few guys have, because in guy conversation you don't need to do that.
So there's my insight for today... who knows what I'll come up with tomorrow!
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Latest reply: Aug 22, 2002
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