h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Go on you may as well


you can't possiblely do anyworse than what Gods done to me


so go ahead do your worse

browbeat me

use me as a scapegoat

blame me for all your inadaqaces

blame me for all thats wrong in your life


just go right ahead, jump on the bandwagon!

whats the matter Cal

It's far too early in the week to be mean, nasty or unpleasant to anyone. So would ya accept a smile and a general instead?

Cal, I would never do that to you and you know it so you'll have to put up with a a and a from me

Love you friend

Cal

some people are very childlike and will force their inapproprate behaviour on others sweetheart, with a blatant disredard for your feelings or what you might be going through. This is because they are full of their own self importance, they believe that their problems take president over all others, they believe that their problems are far more important than anyone elses.

Please don't carry the burdeon that they are trying to offload onto you, you don't need it especially not now and not today and their selfishness is just shining through in that respect.

Carry on being the loveable, caring person you've always been and if they decide to take exception to the things you do, then that is their burdeon not yours, don't allow them to pass it on to you, one day they will run out of people to do that to and they will be very alone.

You have some very good friends both here and in RL let your real friends carry you along at this time, just like they did when you lost your brother

Cal, you have always been supportive of me, even when I didn't realize that I needed support.

I'll be there for you, whether you ask or not.

What's to say that hasn't been said already?

You're too good a person to have to carry someone else's problems on your shoulders. That and at this time you have plenty of your own to deal with. Let them carry their own in' problems and if they don't like it, well then that's just another problem they can add to their own litter of 'em.

I will always be nearby well.. virtually anyway... when you need a friend to unload on, make you laugh, or just with.

see sweetheart

everyone here is a true friend

they are here because they know the real you, no some online personna you insist on playing just to gather others around you so that they can fornicate over you and massage your ego.

You are a kind and caring person Cal,

oh and I know of a bright yellow R1 thats just begging for a blast

What they said...

And point 'em my direction. I'm riled up enough this week to take them all on.

Cal, I know we've never met, and I apologize for intruding. But I read some stuff around this site over the weekend, and have had a similar experience with someone (on here, coincidentally).

Some people are incapable of accepting responsibility for the consequences of their behavior toward others. Some people insist- and convince themselves- that other people are always to blame any time they encounter conflict, regardless of the fact that they have the same problems over and over again with different people. They will try to turn other people against you- and some people will turn, but those people were not worth your time to begin with. These people will fixate on you for whatever reason, and convince themselves that everything you say is about them. They will be nice to you when you say what they like, aggressive and rude when you dare have an opinion or idea of your own. You will be kind to them out of pity, a sense of responsibility, perhaps even a genuine desire to actually *like* the person. But they will inevitably succeed in pushing you to the point of no return, thereby once again reinforcing their persecution complex and delusions of grandeur.

Don't be taken in. Let these unhappy people go on with their empty, miserable little lives, and focus on yourself and what is important. Not least of which, right now, is grief for the loss of a loved one, someone much more important than an internet nasty.

I apologize for butting in, but I know how bad it feels to have someone you've gone out of your way to be friendly and kind toward twist those gestures into something they can use to hurt you. Please don't let that happen.

My deepest condolences on the loss of your sister. Take care.

Well said psychocandy wonderfully put

I havent a clue what has gone on, but I have to believe that anyone who would perform any of the actions you suggested when you are still grieving for you sister isnt worth the space they take up. Since you're upset, you are more likely to anger quickly so I'd suggest taking some space to breath otherwise you will only pour petrol on the fire they stoke for you. Hope things improve for you. Have a loobrush

The sad part is that regardless of if you like a person or not, and regardless of if you think they are a good or a bad person, you simply do not kick people while they're down - and saying you 'didn't know the funeral was that day' has nothing to do with it.. everyone knew Dax had died very recently.

Oh and btw excellently put, psychocandy. I had a situation like that myself IRL. A friend I'd had for years who actually went absolutely screaming mad when another friend referred to me as her 'best friend' (this person called anyone and everyone her 'best friend', sometimes in the same breath). I spent a while calming her down before walking away wondering how I had managed to befriend what I could only describe as a jealous wife. That friendship ended badly when she attacked my sister verbally in public making her cry. I may put up with a lot of stuff but that was not in the list.

Thankyou every body

You're welcome

Not a problem, mate. You're there for everyone else more than often enough as well.

Yup. Tis time for your friends to be there for you.

What Batty said.

Indulge in your friends help and sympathy for a change

And if you don't feel a want for sympathy, I've always got a goodly measure of tea, toast and marmite in the house.