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Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 1

Bluebottle

Is Valentine's Day nothing more than a tacky and tasteless exercise in selling tasteless tat? When people can celebrate their love on their anniversaries (whether wedding anniversaries or other notable occasion, such as when first met, the first kiss, beginning or relationship etc – although these may coincide with Valentine's Day) is there a need for a culturally-appointed date that enforces the celebration of romance?

Valentine's Day, do you think it is a good or bad thing? Tell me below!

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Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 2

Rev Nick - give me poutine, or give me death

Her birthday is July, mine October. We met in October, we married in a September.

February is a nice non-specific date to us. I like the idea that it reminds us to be thankful to the most important person in our lives.

But then - I am just an old softy.


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 3

Rev Nick - give me poutine, or give me death

Of course, a similar question arises every December and early spring. Why do so many non-Christian, non-Jew, non-Muslim or non-Druids enjoy the holiday from work at Christmas and Easter? Nothing much special to them . . . .


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 4

Bluebottle

Maybe, but they could at least choose a time of year that isn't cold, wet, dark and miserable.

One thing I don't get is the Valentine's Day cards that shops sell. These come in two varieties.

The reasonably priced ones are tacky and typically come in two varieties:
smiley - brokenheartLet's get drunk and have sex
smiley - brokenheartLet's have sex then get drunk.

Neither of which are particularly romantic. Yet if you want to get a nice card with an actual romantic message and decent, respectable picture on the cover, it costs more smiley - 2cents than a paperback book smiley - huh How is that justifiable?

At the end of the day, what is better and shows more love and affection? Buying someone a meaningless card churned out by the thousand at this time of year, or a novel smiley - book that you feel reflects their taste and personality and will last longer?

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Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 5

Bluebottle

You don't have to share any particular faith to be able to appreciate the opportunity to spend time with your family at Christmas and Easter. But Valentine's Day isn't a holiday and you don't get to spend extra time with a loved one.

Besides which, if you exchange chocolate in stockings at Christmas and chocolate eggs at Easter, do we really need to exchange smiley - choc for Valentine's Day too? Especially when so many people are still trying to keep their New Year's Resolutions.

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Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 6

The Left Reverend Doktor Baron Grim

The El Paso Zoo (and a few others around the US) has a special opportunity for folks to "celebrate" Valentine's Day. They will name a cockroach after your EX and feed it to meerkats, who find them a particular treat. smiley - laugh



When I was in college, waiting for a business class to begin, I couldn't help but overhear the conversation between two young women, possibly sorority girls, next to me. One was expounding on exactly what she expected from her boyfriend for V-Day.

1.) She expected jewelry, nice jewelry, at LEAST a diamond tennis bracelet.
2.) She expected an engagement ring.
N.B. The engagement ring would NOT count as a V-Day present, it had to be separate.

I glanced over and noticed the speaker's ear rings. They were miniature sets of three credit cards. smiley - laugh
There was no shame to her game. smiley - rofl

She was quite serious about earning her MRS degree.


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 7

Bluebottle

That's what I hate about it, that there's a general perception that smiley - love = smiley - 2cents and the pressure is if you don't spend lots of money on overpriced stuff, you do not love your partner smiley - brokenheart.

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Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 8

SashaQ - happysad

Great question!

I have a bit of an ambivalent relationship with Valentine's Day - on the one hand I love it because I'm a softy too smiley - loveblush but on the other hand there is a fine line between romantic gesture and overblown tat...

Valentine's Day is on a Thursday this year, which is worse than a Wednesday for the shops - I didn't even see any cut flowers at the weekend never mind a bouquet of roses... However, I plan to remedy this situation within the next few days and it will be interesting to see what smiley - 2cents will buy smiley - okA87904911smiley - rose

Valentine's Cards are another thing indeed - it is very disappointing how difficult it is to find the right flavour of message as well as a respectable cover amongst all the tacky ones... On the other hand when I finally did find a lovely card with the exact form of words I was looking for (without resorting to expensive design-your-own card websites) it was a great feeling of achievement! smiley - boingsmiley - loveblush My partner somehow managed to find lovely cards for me, too smiley - loveblush so it was the perfect way to celebrate considering we never spent the day together in person as it wasn't a holiday day.


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 9

Icy North

We’ll, he was a 3rd-century Roman saint, martyred after he attempted to convert the mad Emperor Claudius to Christianity.

Stands to reason we should send each other boxes of chocolates in his honour. It’s what he would have wanted.


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Post 10

The Left Reverend Doktor Baron Grim

Oh, yeah... Claudius was the MAD one. smiley - rolleyes


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Post 11

Bald Bloke

I'm off to the haf moon at Putney
https://tickets.halfmoon.co.uk/events/2019-02-14-vilentines-day-the-anti-valentines-day-show-with-hank-and-the-wangford-bass-combo-and-special-guest-brad-breath-andy-roberts-half-moon-putney


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 12

paulh. I write captions for pictures of cats. The shame! The shame!

Sure, delete the only February holiday that amounts to much of anything.smiley - sadface

Some of us live where no green leaves or colorful blossoms greet us when we go out the front door in the morning. Our worst-of-the-season snowstorms usually fall this time of year. And this year is politically worse than anything I can remember. Recently we learned that if you cut off your government's funding for 35 days, *major* things start shutting down. Planes can't land, for instance. Even the IRS is hobbled to some extent. Would a long-enough shutdown prevent the IRS from processing enough funds to stave off a government default that would have worldwide effects?(Yes, even affecting your neighborhood.)

Yesterday I was trying t think of things that made life worth living, and I wasn't coming up with much. Worldwide financial collapse on top of whatever climate horrors may await us in the next year.

So, I'm going to say that we need valentine's Day. Heck, we need two or three *more* February holidays. They can be organized around gummy bears, coffee (you knew I was going to work coffee into this post smiley - bigeyes), Laura Ingalls Wilder (Feb. 7), Charles Darwin (Feb. 12), and anyone else whose birthdays or accomplishments can be accessed.

Keep the holiday! smiley - cross


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 13

Bluebottle

That's not really a defence of Valentine's Day itself per se, more an argument saying you want to have something, anything, to celebrate at this time of year.

And Valentine's Day isn't a holiday 'cos you don't get a day off.

Frequently February is when Shrove Tuesday is celebrated, though admittedly not this year, and who doesn't love a good pancake? And every February is LGBT History Month – again, why the shortest, dullest, worst month of the year was chosen rather than one of the good ones I don't know. (Hang on, there's also a LGBT Pride Month too, which sensibly is in June. Why the two months? Is it a UK/US divide thing, or is it simply 'why not?' Who wants to argue over how many colours should be in the smiley - rainbow)

Or why not found your own tradition to celebrate and share with your friends?

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Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 14

The Left Reverend Doktor Baron Grim

February has an official holiday in the US.

Mattress Sales Day!

aka Presidents day (Lincoln and Washington celebrated only).




LGBT history has to share a (short) month with Black history!? smiley - huh


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 15

Bluebottle

I thought Black History Month is October, or again is this observed at different times of the year in the US/UK difference, like Mothering Sunday?smiley - huh

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Post 16

paulh. I write captions for pictures of cats. The shame! The shame!

"That's not really a defence of Valentine's Day itself per se, more an argument saying you want to have something, anything, to celebrate at this time of year. And Valentine's Day isn't a holiday 'cos you don't get a day off."[Bluebottle]

You're right. I was venting, and I can get a little irrational when I do that. smiley - blush

Besides, I don't actually have a significant other to send valentine cards to. Still, my pops chorus sometimes performs Valentine Day concerts, and that makes the day seem special. smiley - smiley

Presidents' Day hardly seems like something worth celebrating. Washington and Lincoln are dead, and wouldn't know whether I celebrated their birthdays or not. For that matter, neither would Martin Luther King, Jr. (a January birthday honoree). Buying mattresses or cars hardly seems like something one can celebrate every year. smiley - erm



Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 17

The Left Reverend Doktor Baron Grim

I think it should be obvious that if politicians (old white men almost exclusively at the time) were going to deign to designate a month to "Black" history, they'd pick the shortest one.


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 18

paulh. I write captions for pictures of cats. The shame! The shame!

I suppose that I could celebrate Feb. 2nd with ground hog loaf.


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Post 19

The Left Reverend Doktor Baron Grim

That's just sausage, right?


Why celebrate Valentine's Day?

Post 20

paulh. I write captions for pictures of cats. The shame! The shame!

Yes. smiley - smiley


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