A Conversation for LIL'S ATELIER

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Post 81

Asteroid Lil - Offstage Presence

At least read the first post, dave -- you got a door prize.

How many salonistas remember this? http://www.thateden.co.uk/dirk/


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Post 82

Montana Redhead (now with letters)

I do! I remembered it being disturbingly accurate for an internet randomizer, and lo and behold, it is *still* disturbingly accurate.

Okay, all you single parents: when is it appropriate to have your new person and your kid interact? I mean, D already knows the BF as someone I know and am friends with, but what about spending the night and having him here in the morning? Will that be too disturbing to her? We had a very involved conversation (the BF and I) about his involvement with me vs. his involvement with me as a mom. I mean, I guess the thing to know for sure first is that the relationship is long term, right?


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Post 83

Hypatia

MR, I'm not a single parent and am not qualified to respond. But that has never stopped me before. smiley - winkeye I'd just like to say that your instincts here will be your best guide. Not all children will react the same way. You know D better than anyone.

Helps herself to the salsa and chips.


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Post 84

Mrs Zen

What Hypatia said.

smiley - smiley

Ben


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Post 85

U195408

DOH!

*slaps forehead*

Sorry Lil, how rude of me. From the brief glance I got, the table looked wonderful - oh here it is again. Hmm, very regular in its appearances and disappearances it is. Now, just let me set my periodic laptop on it...

*sets laptop on the shimmering table*
*laptop crashes to floor as the table disappears*

Oops, they must be out of sync, just let me adjust the laptop...

*laptop disappears*

Dang, I guess I'll have to wait till it comes round again.

Thanks again Lil! I've also awarded myself a conical hat with a question mark on the front (a la Homer Simpson the Quiz Master).

*dave places conical quiz master hat on head, which promptly flickers and disappears*

Darn, looks like this thing is contagious...


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Post 86

Asteroid Lil - Offstage Presence

Was that your head that disappeared? smiley - yikes


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Post 87

logicus tracticus philosophicus


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Post 88

logicus tracticus philosophicus

my post that i was about to post disapeared, I was goneing to ask the statatisian , re ftp mug about post 42, who has had all the 42 posts, smiley - biggrinsmiley - winkeye just a passing interests.smiley - runAvoiding several objects heard whistleing in the straetosphere in this direction


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Post 89

Asteroid Lil - Offstage Presence


OK, henceforth, post forty-two shall be known as post ltp.


Wolfgang, the chicken is delicious.


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Post 90

marvthegrate LtG KEA

[MTG]


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Post 91

Ormondroyd

[Ormondroyd]


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Post 92

Good Doctor Zomnker (This must be Tuesday," said GDZ to himself, sinking low over his Dr. Pepper, "I never could get the hang of Tuesdays.")

The ex called just after I got the kids in bed to let me know she was on her way. The kids were not asleep so, I got them dressed and sent them on their way. She does not always call at the last minute though the calls come all too often.


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Post 93

Coniraya

My low carb diet allows wholemeal bread, so are those rolls available in granary, Wolfgang?

MR, I presume D has got to know the BF well now? Just say to D that he will be coming for a sleep over and leave it at that. If she asks awkward questions about room sharing then just say that two grown-up people who really care about each other share a room. You'll be amazed though at how kids take things in their stride. And it is wonderful that your relationship has progressed to a more permanent level.


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Post 94

Mrs Zen

Morning everyone.

Now that my CD player is working again, I am playing my CDs in order Z-A, and enjoying reaquainting myself with them. I guess I really ought to investigate getting them into a virtual juke-box or an Ipod or something, given I travel so much.

A nice lazy day ahead of me. I think I will rehome the stacks and stacks of misplaced books, and tidy the shelf behind me which is an elephant's graveyard of things that haven't been put away. If I am really on the case, I will dig into the two oak chests I have which have a multitude of domestic sins hidden in their depths.

Incidentally yesterday was another pleasant date. A friend of a friend: there appears to have been some match-making going on. We had lunch in a pub by the river in Oxford, ambled along the riverside photographing swans and cows and, in my rather childish case, dabbling feet in the water and squidging the mud between the toes. We ended up having a meal in a Greek restaurant before racing to our separate homes to watch Parkinson. A lovely day, in fact.

B
*Not smitten, but definitely chilled*


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Post 95

Montana Redhead (now with letters)

That would be the big issue, wouldn't it Caer? Whether or not our relationship has progressed to a point where the BF and D get to know each other better. I mean, she's known him as a person for quite some time, but as my BF? not so much.

She told me he could sleep over, but he had to sleep on the couch, and he had to make breakfast. French toast, apparently. I'm still not sure what to do about the couch issue...Perhaps both of us should sleep on the couch? Argh, but these are tricky waters to navigate.

Ben, I'm glad to hear that the date went well!


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Post 96

Mrs Zen

Well the sleep on the couch thing is a security issue. Dad moves out and is replaced. Could she be moved out and replaced too?

She's also testing boundaries and trying to find out how much she can control or blackmail you.

Why not do a trade - he sleeps in your room *but* he makes French Toast for breakfast?

Just a thought, from someone for whom this is just theory, so feel free to ignore it.

B


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Post 97

Hati

[Hati]
(in a conflict with backlog and RL, they call it SAD, I call them with all the words)


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Post 98

Hypatia

We may have a rainy weekend in store. But, they predicted that last week and we only got a few sprinkles, so I'm not going to depend on it. Think I'd better go out and water everything anyway.

I found out that my brother will be here today, so I need to come up with something for lunch. He is a tad on the picky side when it comes to food, so it's always a challenge. Where's Wolfgang when you need him. smiley - laugh


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Post 99

Asteroid Lil - Offstage Presence


I'm rather relieved to no longer live in Florida!

A skunk "went off" at about 5:30 this morning, not far off to judge from the strength of the smell that rolled through the house. It went away eventually, as doors at both ends of the house are left open until it freezes. smiley - silly


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Post 100

logicus tracticus philosophicus

Should not a jot of difference make , wether your daughter knows your boyfreind as a person or a boyfreind of her mother,I would not have any freind "sleep"(well not unless you kick all your lovers out of bed after) on the couch ,would she expect one of your old schoolfreinds do the same,(sleep on couch(french toast)

Also remind your daughter that one day the roles will be reversed,so perhaps it may be better that she settles for breakfast.

[A side note ]on the "Meeting potentional inlaws for the first time" I can recall two occasions when the first time met girlfreinds mother was when "they" brought us tea in bed first thing in the morning ,(allthough one did knock on door to say it was out side),cant remember many of the more formal first meetings.


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