A Conversation for Kids On Romance

Oh isnt that sweet

Post 1

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

AInt that nice? All those little children with their innocent views on love. Isnt it sad that soon they will all be sex obsessed, arrogant, cocky, annoying teenagers? Coming from a teenager this is probably a bit weird but if only they would keep those innocent views. Then romantics like me might stand a chance. Oh well.


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Post 2

Bluebottle

I know what you mean.
They make relationships sound so easy - all you have to do is hold hands, buy dinners, and everything is fine for the rest of your life. If only that was how the real world was.

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Post 3

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

I so wish it was. Biggest problem is worrying about rejection in my oppinion.

Nice to know people think the same way as me.


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Post 4

Bluebottle

...And even after years of living happily, there's still the risk of divorce, affairs, drifting apart, or, worst of all, your loved-one dying.
Buit we're getting too cynical - love never seems so bad when you're young, only cheesy and slushy. smiley - winkeye

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Post 5

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

As I am only 16 I have no experience of worrying about divorce, death or anything like that but I do know about rejection. As in: I never experienced anything but rejection.

Still... this may not be the gernaral oppinion of a teenage guy but I think love isnt 'slushy' or 'cheesy' I think it is wonderful and the commitment is what I desire. Still enough moaning! Love is wonderful and thats the end of the argument! So there!


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Post 6

Bluebottle

Well, I respect you for this view - much more romantic, kind & considerate than the typical "Love & leave 'em" view that seemed to dominate many of my friends relationships - although I was never able to find a date until I was 18.smiley - blue

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Post 7

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

Im still looking for one my friend. As for "love 'em and leave 'em" I see that attitude as a path to sorrow... whilst they are loving and leaving they are loosing part of themselfs everytime. They dont realise that when the time comes that they want to settle down all the people that you can settle down with are gone to other people. Shame... Maybe there still is hope for the world... maybe there isnt.


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Post 8

Bluebottle

I agree that "love 'em and leave 'em" is a path that leads to sorrow, and I too have always been one who wanted to settle down - yet I don't think I had the courage to even try to ask until I was 16/17, yet it worked out as when I was 18 I met Sarah, and have been with her for 3 years and am the happiest I've ever been. So overall I'm glad I didn't chase after anyone when I was younger, as I wouldn';t have wanted to have missed Sarah.

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Post 9

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

I personally have allways been able to muster up the courage... eventually, but that doesnt mean I dont poo myself while Im standing there... talking. I am an actor and so am used to being put up on stage but that is nothing compared to asking someone out. I suppose that is because on stage the outcome of you performance is unimportant in the long run, however standing infront of a girl you really, REALLY like... well, how 'well' you do could effect the rest of your life.

Anyway courage isnt nessacary provided you aint too keen on them... however this still results in a negative answer for me so I havent made any mistakes yet.


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Post 10

Bluebottle

I've only asked one person so far - by letter! I didn't have the courage to face-to-face, besides which, she was 193 miles away at the time. And I'm still going out with her, so that worked out better than I had hoped. smiley - smiley

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Post 11

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

I tried to ask a girl out at her work recently and if I had even a shred of suave or style it could have been romantic... but I dont and so it wasn't. I really like her so I'll try again but I really need to apologise to her about it. Thing is whenever I try to talk to her about it I get scared... no scared isnt the right word... Its brown trousers time!!! Ill do it sometime... maybe tonight ya never know!!!


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Post 12

Bluebottle

Well, I definately wish you luck!
It took me about 6 months, at least, before I picked up the courage to even write the letter!

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Post 13

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

I think I'll need the luck but I dont so much have courage as forced stupidity: I force myself into the situation and then wing it from there...however this often involves a large degree of panic which can be... un-helpful shall we say. Still thanks for the luck... I hope I have the courage (or stupidity) to use it smiley - winkeye


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Post 14

Bluebottle

Forced stupidity - that's what I normally use when applying for jobs.
So far I've failed almost all of my interviews, and have ended up working for McDonalds.smiley - doh Oh well..
Hope you fair better!

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Post 15

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

Well I did it (again) sort of... All the guys and gals from work went out to a karaoke bar last night and bacause I was skint I managed to persuade people to buy me drinks... in return for dedicating a love/sex related song to Libby. So I sang The Joker by Steve Miller Band and dedicated to her... and for an extra pint I actually performed it. I am a big performer anyway and once the crowd starts getting into it I can kinda go mad. I was playin it up all the way. Still I talked to her later and apologised for the embarrasment caused by the dedication and for embarrasing her when I asked her out at her other work. A very sweet friend of Libby's decided to try and help me by talking to her... I was really scared so she took it upon herself to help... very sweet, I wish my other friends would so that. But yeh it has now been agreed that is un-realistic. She is going back to university in Luton and Im just starting college. However if she decided to change her mind at any point Im sure Ill still be avalible. :o)

Oh well life goes on.


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Post 16

Bluebottle

You've more courage than me - I've only karaoked once, and my knees trembled all the way through, and I was awful, and it wa sonly a few mates watching for a laugh. But congratulations for giving it a go.

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Post 17

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

Thanks. Im a actor and a musician anyway so karaoke was no big cheese but still... Plenty more fish in the sea eh (Maybe Im using the wrong bait? I should use live bait or flies?)!!! Actually this is one little fishy I aint gonna give up on so easily.


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Post 18

Bluebottle

Good for you - keep giving it a go, the only thing you can lose is confidence and pride, which it seems that you have plenty of, and compared to what you may gain is insignificant.

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Post 19

Jeffery the hyper-intelligent guitar

Oh I'll never loose pride... or confidence for that matter. I cant loose confidence cos every time I fail I loose a little bit of shame so its easier to fail and not be down hearted. There was one time not long ago when a girl broke my heart into so many pieces that it nearly killed me. Still I have learned ways to cope. Sure I learnt the hard way but... I'm cool now. People are talking about us and hopefully people will talk in my favour and... maybe she will be influenced by them.


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Post 20

Bluebottle

I'm glad you can't lose confidence - I wish I could learn that trick. smiley - winkeye
There's always hope.
And there's also that glib, but true, phrase -there's plenty of smiley - schooloffish in the sea, you just have to beware the smiley - sharks.

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