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Being asked for change for ...
loneTree Started conversation Mar 21, 2003
I have a problem when being asked for change for a bus, a cup of coffee or a meal. I always agonize that its an excuse to get cash together for more booze, drugs, or ciggies. But point blank refusing is also not what makes the world go round. So time permitting I try to find out what they need, as opposed to what they asked for. The ones that are on the level will explain, the cons will wonder of for an easier mark. Then if it is a coffee, say, or a meal, I'll take them to the nearest fast food place and buy them a meal or coffee.
That way I can be sure that there is no tempation to spend it on something else. The downside is of course that had I given them the money, they could have made it last much longer by thrift shopping...and the food at those places in not the healthiest either...oh well, can't win them all.
Being asked for change for ...
clzoomer- a bit woobly Posted Mar 21, 2003
For many years I had cards that I printed with names, addresses, and phone numbers of organisations that gave out free food, provided work, etc. I used to hand them out but I got so many people being outright obnoxious about it that now I simply ignore beggars. The exception is when one is wearing clothes or shoes that are better than the ones I am wearing. In that case I tend to mock them by offering to trade!
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silverygibbon Posted Mar 22, 2003
I do not give money to beggars, unless they are obviously in dire need.
Over the last few years there has been a rise in "professional beggars", usually using the excuse that they've lost their train fare and need to get home. To such end, I always carry a pre-paid public transport (covers train/bus/tram here)ticket. It costs about Aus$4. (1.5 GBP).
Of the last 15 or so times I've been approached, I've given away 1 ticket. The rest have all left with sour faces.
As to requests for money for food etc, there is always a Salvation Army office in the locality. I donate to them - as I know the money will be used wisely - and recommend their services to panhandlers.
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silverygibbon Posted Mar 22, 2003
Often. And designer sweatshirts. And mobile phones.
This type are also more likely to be pushy and harrass anyone who refuses them, or to whine and nag. I've even seen a couple trying to intimidate older women into giving them change. (Fortunately I'm big enough and ugly enough that a quick "Hey you!" had them on their toes).
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clzoomer- a bit woobly Posted Mar 22, 2003
I'm sorry, but I am much bigger and uglier, and presently more inebriated than you. Therefore the beggars in my vacinity are much more in danger of being *outed*.
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