h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I read this entry and thought it was great, everyone needs help and support and sometimes have no-one to turn to or dont know where to turn, it is hard for people coping as a single parent or non-residential parent, i play both these parts, i have my daughter living with me and my son lives with his father, it can be hard sometimes, as i dont get much support from my family, but at the end of the day i know i have two beautiful children who i see on a regular basis, if there is any single parents out there who ever fancy a natter or need a moan please feel free to leave me a message, i know how hard it is, my daughter has special needs so ive been through thick and thin with her, and my son was very premature and has gone through alot in his short life. so i guess you could say i know alot about being a parent in a hard situation, if your feeling low always think about the good things in your life and remember there is people in worse situations in this world. please feel free to come and chat to me...Morcheeba.

HI HUN UR SO RIGHT ABOUT LOOKING ON THE BRIGHT SIDE WITH KIDS.
MY SON WHO IS NEARLY 12 IS GOING THREW THE SULKING STAGE AT THE MOMENT.
AT TIMES IT REALLY GETS ME DOWN BUT AS YOU SAY THERE ARE KIDS WHO ARE A LOT WORSE.
IVE BROUGHT HIM UP ON MY OWN SINCE HE WAS 6 MONTHS OLD WHEN HIS DAD DECIDED TO WALK OUT ON US FOR ANOTHER WOMAN.
AS HIS GOT OLDER IT HAS AFFECTED HIM MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY.
IT AFFECTED HIS SCHOOL WORK QUITE BAD.
HIS SEEN MY RELATIONSHIPS COME AND GO AND DONT REALLY THINK THAT HAS HELPED HIM MUCH.
HIS AN ANGEL AT TIMES BUT OTHER TIMES A RIGHT LITTLE BUG.
BUT THEN GAIN AREN`T MOST KIDS.
IVE TRIED TO DO MY BEST BY HIM BUT TO ME NEVER SEEMS TO BE ENOUGH
BECAUSE I KNOW I CAN DO MORE FOR HIM BUT IT TAKES MONEY AND TIME.
MY EX IN LAWS TRY TO HELP OUT BY TAKING HIM ON BREAKS OR HOLIDAYS OF WHICH I HAVENT BEEN ABLE TO DO.
BUT DONT GET ME WRONG I AM GRATEFUL BUT I FEEL ITS MY DUTY TO DO THOSE THINGS FOR HIM.
MAY BE IN TIME WHO KNOWS ITS JUST A SHAME MY PARENTS ARENT THE SAME AS MY EX IN LAWS.

SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR OWN KIDS.
HOPE THEY GROW UP 2 B VERY HEALTHY HAPPY AND LOVED WHICH IM SURE THEY ARE

KIDS ARE OUR FUTURE

Morcheeba, thanks for the compliment but I did it as I could never find the information easily anywhere and I thought it would help others. I hope that you and both your children have a wonderful life, I know it's not easy and yes chatting to others helps and with strangers in a similar situation it's usually easier.

Essex, I went through what your going through now with your son and the only helpful comment I can make is that they do get over it eventually, it takes alot of time, love and understanding, it's hard when their anger is vented at you when your not the one that did the dirty deed, but you have to understand that your the only one there that he can have a go at. It took a child psychologist to help me and my son understand what was happening in his mind, but now we do I switch off to the tantrums and within minutes they stop, I was told that he was doing it to make me hurt as much as he was, now I let him calm down and then we talk about whats on his mind and I've seen a big difference in his attitude both at home and at school. Good luck and take care and I hope things improve but if you ever need to chat just leave me a message.

hi hun thanx 4 ur reply...my son isnt as bad as wot it sounds..its just wen i ask him 2 do sumthing then his face drops n i get either dont want 2 or silence...but as they say silence is golden lol
his no where as bad as wot he used 2 b god he used 2 slam doors thump upstairs or even bash his head on the wall/floor...all i can say is thank god he is better now..hope u r ok take care