h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Not another sex-related article assuming that it's all just about men!

Although cybersex is (IMO) an odd passtime, I do know of girls who do it too - often with other girls!
This may have something to do with the aformentioned fear of HIV etc, or fear of physical harm from an unknown partner, or it may be a way of acting out a fantasy they wouldn't contemplate in the real world. I feel that cybersex probably works *better* for women on some levels, as we are generally more linguistically stimulated, while men prefer visual stumulus.
Your article seems to assume that girls don't do nasty things like masturbate. Well I'm afraid we do!

There - I've outed myself!
Pinks

I popped my cyber cherry a few months ago but haven't been back. Chat rooms are strangely alluring places though. Glad to here that at least some girls do cyber tho, I did suspect that it was all teenage lads adoptng pseudonyms

In an attempt to make an entry not from a male view point I am working on a similar page on Internet Dating sites and require female input (as well as gay input) any volunteers?

http://www.h2g2.com/A394463

Kadu

While some girls go out and cyber, the ones who will admit it are few and far between. But you're right: it is mostly teenage guys who (for one reason or another) cannot or will not have real sex. It is an odd way to spend a friday night, but no odder than anyther, I suppose.

Ford Prefect (M)

Hate to tell you me old bean -- but you are dead wrong. The surge in popularity of pornography on the internet has been (almost exclusively) due to women, you just recently trumped men as being the dominant force checkin out la-sex.



And as for a bit of the old cyber-nasty, even though I dont indulge in that particular activity any more,during my first year of university I did and, sorry to burst your bubble, all of my partners were actual honest to god women. And before you say "well how do you know?", I spoke to every one one the phone at some point, and even met a few irl.


Which brings up another point -- the salnt of this article has been slightly to the negative, fingering single males who are sexless and desperate. But its just not so . .. Though there are undoubtedly those gentlemen as well, many of the people I have met who were net-friendly lets say, where nothing like this.

Its like saying that everyone that reads porn is a deviant sexless male teen -- the fact is that most of the people who found their way into this world found their way there through friends, as I did, and for a large part at university. They come out of curiosity and then stay due to friendships, addiction, bordome, love, lust or whatever.

I suggest this article be rewritten to include more various points of view. As it is it is seriously inacurate and, dare I say, a bit offensive.

~Beeblefish (Typing with Both Hands)

Hmm, maybe it is different for women, but we still do it! Probably in a different way to men, and I do it mainly because I know they like it. It's not because I don't get enough sex, in fact I usually do it with the bloke I do have sex with when we can't get together. It's a friendly way to have a laugh on the net late at night, and no arguments about who has to sleep in the wet patch!

Mina,
Very well put, I liked the "It's a friendly way to have a laugh on the net". Too many people don't think you can mix having a laugh with sex.

If you have cybersex, do you not still get a virtual wet patch?!!

The good thing about a virtual wet patch is that from my point of view it's always on his side.

It is different for girls!!! Men potentially have to deal with a very real wet patch on the monitor

At least my computer chair is drip-dry.

You know, I'd always wondered why the public library I use had such a firm ban on the accessing of chat rooms. (And I've just had to explain to a librarian that h2g2 isn't like that, honest).

> "I suggest this article be rewritten to include more various points of view. As it is it is seriously inacurate and, dare I say, a bit
offensive."

Seconded - a cursory look around reveals a couple of entries which could be combined with this one into a collaborative entry that would be more balanced than this on it's own.

http://www.h2g2.com/A373079 (rec'd)
http://www.h2g2.com/A33887

Plus the stuff in these forums...
Who wants to pester the editor?

You do?

I am rather surprised to find that many men enjoy cyber sex, as I previously thought they were more likely to become stimulated by visual aids instead of the written word. I confess that I have cybered on occasion because I was curious and wanted to see what it was all about. Sometimes it was just a game that I played and responded in accordance to what I thought my partner wanted to hear/read. Other times, I got caught up in the moment and found my body reacting to the stimulating conversation. I don't think it's fair to say that most of the chat room congregation is made up of horny teenage boys, as there are a lot of curious and possibly lonely women out there seeking a thrill or some kind of companionship.

What about your lover? Or is cyber sex a way to find a new one? Or have more than one? I'm just curious

See also Kadu Flyer's article(s) on internet dating. (not yet approved)

Have to agree that the net is probably more suited to female sxuality due to the lack of visual stimulation (Plus the fact that we can still type with both hands while getting off)

I'm truly all woman. I can honestly say though that I have a "Mae West" style figure, nicely rounded hour glass, but a little more round than I care for. All my friends parents love me because they think I'm sweet and innocent, or at least decent. For the most part I am. It's been "drilled" into me from a very young age and at 39, that lesson is well learned. Appear to be decent and you will be. I admit, I cyber, and quite frequently! But you'll never see me in a chat room. I have numerous "friends" I have met through various groups and know each of them in person as well as in cyber. For me, and my cyber "partners", it's a way to have the fantasy of being with someone else, trying new and different things, and no one gets hurt. We understand that cyber is cyber and cannot enter into OUR "real world". I've helped many male friends get past the "same old same old" rut by exploring different situations in cyber that they then take into THEIR real world. Cyber also allows us to enjoy a "sexual" relationship without fear of rejection. Cyber allows me to open up and "express" myself in ways I find difficult in the real world. Even my boyfriend asks me to cyber with him. He understands that cyber allows me to be more myself, or who I wish I could be. I have lots of ideas about how I want to be, but let's face it, in reality, we can't always be what we want to be. We're "forced" into a mold to be what we SHOULD be and that's tough to break out of. Even when we're alone with our special someone. Cyber doesn't have those "rules" or molds and your imagination is your only limitation.

Trillian149686

cyber sex is like a textual intercourse!!

I must admit it doesn't do anything for me.
But when I have no-one to kiss & cuddle IRL, it's nice to get close to people I already know...
I'd never do it with strangers.
I'm too paranoid they'd track me down.