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I don't know if anyone's reading my posts, but I wondered if any of my hootoo friends could give me some advice. I'm fed up with just seeing people through the medium of a computer screen, but for best part of 20 years I've been living on a tight budget like most people. This has led to me not taking up invitations to people's weddings, birthdays etc and now no one invites me to anything, bar a 70th birthday of my best friend's mum a couple of years back! Anyway, I have a birthday coming up and it's a landmark and part of me wants to have a party but I really don't think anyone will take me seriously if I say that. Do I tell people why I haven't seen them for years or keep quiet about it? Do I issue invitations and run the risk of being confirmed as a social pariah or just not celebrate my birthday as has been the case for the last two decades or so? Any advice or opinions would be great as I don't want to make a complete fool of myself on Facebook!

Hi Summerbay

As I read your post I think you are uncomfortable with the thought and expense of buying presents for the privilege of attending the events.

I might ask them to share your celebration, and list what you will provide; snacks, soft drinks and some sort of entertainment - even if it is only recorded music.

You might include a note about how you regret having missed their company over the years, if you like.

I would include a section stating that you do not intend to accept any gifts, other than the company of your friends. Anyone who feels compelled to give something might make a donation to their own favorite charity.

Just a few thoughts I thought you might find useful



F S

Cheers, Florida Sailor. That makes a lot of sense. I suppose it's easier to see things logically from outside, which is why I did my 'beta testing' on here. I'll let you know how it goes.