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Give him time GB, he will soon realise how lucky he was  and you will probably find you get on better now he has left. I certainly did with my eldest. It is obviously time for him to move on.
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Posted Apr 9, 2012 by ITIWBS
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Observation on young people leaving home.
When they hit the age of forty or so they suddenly begin to appreciate the heartache, self sacrifice and sorrow they once took for granted.
I second that ITIWBS especially when they have children
Websailor
We never pay it back to our parents - we pass it on to our children, who, in their turn are ungrateful till they have their own children and so it goes down through the generations. Maybe his half-siblings can have a talk with him?
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 That realization that strikes around forty when one has accumulated enough adult experience to understand is something to look forward to.
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I hope he has a place to stay at.
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Oh dear. Where has he gone? But I don't blame you if he's being abusive.
He's staying with the friend who he's been "getting his own place with" for the past 3 months, not paying me rent because he was "saving up" for his own place, except he showed me his bank statement on Monday morning (after I had cleaned the kitchen of spilt sugar ) and there was £60 in pending charges because he'd used his debit card 4 times in one month before his money went in (not his fault, of course) even though I sorted it out for him in December and he promised he wouldn't do it again. I am afraid the stress got too much to bear and his whole attitude of using me and abusing my good nature and constant lying was something I could no longer live with. His half-siblings: Laura gave him & Will a lift back to Will's place and offered to help move the rest of his stuff. Allan rang me for a chat then put some money into his bank account (I think he rang Andrew too). Haven't heard from Helen at all.
<<We never pay it back to our parents>> speak for yourself, I give my mother multiple times what she ever did for me, and I am still running around after her. She never even babysat for me!
Thanks for your support everyone
Today is the first day of a new life for me, just me and my  I'm going to finish emptying his room today. The sooner I can decorate and move in there the better my health will be; the room I am in is cold, damp and noisy when the wind blows.
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Thanks very much I really appreciate all the support, especially from those who know exactly what I've been through in the last 19 years. I do feel as if a huge weight has been lifted from me, and it feels like the first time I am free to live my own life.
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Posted Apr 10, 2012 by U94986
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J has come through all his little problems (mostly caused by me wanting to work and him not getting on at various childcare places) and although we still have rows he's getting better round the house (although still needs nagging) and works for me. If he starts treating the place like a hotel, he can bugger off too!
It's a painful time, but a rite of passage nonetheless. Wishing you strength and calm
You have to pay for a hotel
I am glad things have worked out for you Mina,
 I am afraid Andrew adopted a "don't give a shit" attitude when his college mucked up his 2nd year course and allowed all the first years in, and at the end there was no job because the Government in their wisdom decided to dum down the Fire Service, reduce the men on the tenders so there was no new intake and fireworkers in this town at least were being laid off. I can trace his attitude back to that. But we all take knocks in life and if I acted like him I'd have no friends left. The rest of his life is up to him.
Meanwhile I am stripping his bedroom down to the bare walls so I can begin decorating from scratch, and enjoying the taste of freedom.
It's sad that it happened like that, but you deserve better treatment than that. You've put up with a lot over the years, so need to live for yourself!
We hope you and are happy, and enjoy the peace! If you ever fancy a day out, you know where we are!  <BIG >
Such a sweetheart
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