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Posted Jun 13, 2000 by Slim
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  | | i didn't think it was possible to be with the person that i love and thus started dateing someone else who i eventually married. i recently saw the 1st person and she revieled that alough she was
married she still thought about me..... so in some ways i didn't really expect to get into this situation...
does this make sense
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jun 13, 2000 by Chrome101
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| | Ouch!
Love is a terrible thing. it starts with a few stray thoughts touching on the particular person, and then it develops to lingering stares, and eventually you feel afraid just saying hello to them.
You become paranoid and start to think "Does she love someone else?" "Does she even know i exist?" "Does she think I'm scum who just crawled out of a sewer?"
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jun 13, 2000 by jqr
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| | I don't know if it's as bad as all that. I was eavesdropping on a conversation sunday afternoon in the deli. One woman was asking the other what she should write in an email to a fellow whom she wanted to get to know better. The other woman encouraged her to say bland things--I guess in an effort to make the guy know that she would be interested in him, too. It seemed really false and pretentious and un-loving. I think that communication inspires love, and vice versa. To develop love, you should try to be in relationships that emphasize communication and trust and working together.
Hope you're feeling better about the 2 women.
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jun 13, 2000 by jqr
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| | Hmmm. I sympathize with your troubles. I used to think I was too crusty to ever have a girlfriend I could get along with. *in my best advice-column voice*
one day you will meet someone who is as much of a freak as you are and you will be very happy together. Just keep reminding her of why you like her and everything will be OK.
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jul 6, 2000 by jrn
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| | I dunno maybe it's because I'm just 13 but I know someone who is as much of a freak, if not a little more, as me, and I like her a lot (I'm reluctant to call it love, considering that my belief is that true love doesn't exist), but we're not very happy together. There's just a lot of tension. And she knows I like her and why I like her. I know nothing about her side of things (I don't know whether she likes me at all). And middle schools over, and we're going to different high schools, and it's possible - likely - that I'm going to be in a boarding school on the other side of the country, so I wouldn't really call that happily ever after.
Maybe someone should right a guide entry on the pessimist's perspective of love.
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jul 6, 2000 by jrn
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| | I dunno maybe it's because I'm just 13 but I know someone who is as much of a freak, if not a little more, as me, and I like her a lot (I'm reluctant to call it love, considering that my belief is that true love doesn't exist), but we're not very happy together. There's just a lot of tension. And she knows I like her and why I like her. I know nothing about her side of things (I don't know whether she likes me at all). And middle schools over, and we're going to different high schools, and it's possible - likely - that I'm going to be in a boarding school on the other side of the country, so I wouldn't really call that happily ever after.
Maybe someone should write a guide entry on the pessimist's perspective of love.
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jul 6, 2000 by Chrome101
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| | I could write that, but it'd have to be called Unrequited Love (where you love someone and they don't love you back) because that's the only type of love i have experience with.
I think it's really false and sickening in films tv etc. when the man and woman fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after. there's always going to be some kind of barrier (ie. I'm a freak and she hates me) and "the course of true love never runs smooth".
That's probably why I love Romeo and Juliet so much...
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| | | Subject: If you're lucky...
Posted Jul 7, 2000 by Dragonfly. "A poet can survive everything but a misprint"-- Oscar Wilde
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| | YAY!!! Romeo and Juliet!!! YAY!!!!
Oh... yeah...
Boy meets girl, blah de blah... that silly scenario rarely happens. I don't know about Love at first sight, but I do understand Lust at first sight, and even a Need to Procreate or Marry at first sight.
And and and!!! Conversation in a relationship is VERY important!!! Even and when it's one-sided. 
As far as finding THE ONE, I'm not sure there is ONE... I like to think we spirits reconvene in each life, in our loving little circles... Mother-daughter relationship one lifetime, friend-friend in another... Without the family and friends we cherish, without our mentors and those who we need to mentor, what are we!?? We're really not anything anyone could truly fall in love with, are we!??
I think our good memories as well as our bad contribute to our being... yeah... I had a great way to explain this, and now I think I have gone and lost it!!! DEAR ME!!!
Well... the people who love us(who can be parents and friends and others) make us feel good. When we feel good, we are interested in the fun things of existence!!! Like LOVE  so it's not your own heart and soul that pull you towards another person, is it!?? In a way, yes... but that heart and soul learned from others...
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Posted Jul 17, 2000 by Tempest
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| | jm you have my complete sympathy.
It was the toughest thing in the world to get my current boyfriend to go out with me. I was infatuated with him for 8 months before he finally said he would. He made me wait a long time because he didn't believe that any girl would like him as much as I told him I did. But he gave in. So we dated all of our senior year of high school and the following summer. I left to go to college 4 hours away from him. It was the most miserable time I've ever been through. Now I'm leaving for school again next month and we don't know what we're going to do. We both believe that we were meant to be together but he has some serious insecurity problems and he's always thinking I'm going to leave him for someone at school. I thought that this last year would have proved to him that I only want him but he doesn't seem to get it.
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